He shouts, fights
And I too
He calms down fast
But I do not
As I’m not a child anymore
Child: Mom, you make me so angry.
Mom: What happened?
Child: Always imposing controls on my cartoons..
Mom: If you had some self control, I wouldn’t have to impose.
Child: India is a free country, don’t you know that so far?
Little Girl : Aunty, You look very beautiful
Mom : Oh! Sweeti, thank you so much. You are also very cute.
Son (standing nearby) : (Laughing silently)
Mom : Hey you fool, why were you laughing then..?
Son : Ah, she was telling the same thing to every mom she met today
Mom : Pling !
Never rescue your kids from mistakes. If you do, they will just continue the same and never learn to improve. So in effect, parents are spoiling their kids by allowing them to commit the mistakes repeatedly. Instead have a protective eye, ensure their safety, warn them on the consequences, still if they are continuing with their mistakes, let them do it. They will learn naturally from their consequences. And why not build up some harmless consequences, if they are not learning naturally..;)
And on the other side, if you are not enforcing those rules and disciplinary actions, kids will feel really bad, like you are not bothered on them.. So never hesitate to have disciplinary actions. So switch the mode very often.
Four little cutie pies
The ultra-modern gen
Playing ping pong
With their own rules.
Laughing aloud on
Hitting the opponent.
One tot opining his mate
“Chance to win if play together”.
Venue: Open FIDE Rated Chess Tournament
Time: 9:30 AM
Timers pressed. Game began.
My opponent was a little girl, not more than 10 years old. And when the game started I noticed that she had a wrong placement of king and queen (Or something like that, I don’t remember exactly). I thought, “Oh..this innocent kid, poor girl, why should I make her in trouble” I told her to correct it and the game restarted.
After sometime, she called the arbiter. Did I make any mistake? My eyes scanned the entire board..no, nothing is wrong.. then what’s wrong with her..I thought.
The timer was placed on my left side, so I was moving pieces with my left hand to meet the law of pressing the timer with the same hand which made move. And as a poke-yoke, I kept a pen in my right hand too and was writing the moves in the notepad. The cautious me, no..;)
The little girl assumed that I was playing with right hand, as it is the normal way. And when she noticed that I was pressing the timer with left hand, a bulb lighted in her head. Anyway, it didn’t take much time to make it clear for her as the arbiter was the real witness to shield me.
Another 10 or 15 moves over. I did a short castling. Again she stood up.. I scanned my board..the cycle repeated, found nothing wrong. The arbiter came and at once she said that I moved into check. Castling is only forbidden when an opponent’s piece controls a square that the king has to cross. Thanks God, I am saved this time, too. She might have got mistaken by the rules.
After a few more moves, she called the arbiter again. My heartbeats started to increase. And this time, she had a complaint about the table, that it’s not steady.. Anyway the arbiter solved this problem too…the match continued..
Please don’t ask me who win or lose the match, I give full credit to that little girl as she gave me an alternative insight to her generation.
Ding..ding.. Someone is ringing the bell.. While opened the door, I found my neighbour little girl. The red apple cheeks reminded me of my childhood days, playing all around. She was playing outside since it being a holiday. She wanted some water, that’s why called me. I thought she will be going to play again after having water.
But to my surprise she just stood there after having water. So I couldn’t get back to my work. I just enquired on her schooling and all. And then she opened her chatter box.
She started to tell me about her school, teachers, classes, friends…she never had a full stop. She was talking non-stop, linking one thing to another even though I didn’t ask much.
I thought she will be demanding one more glass of water..;)
She was least bothered whether I was listening or not. (may be she felt that she was talking to someone of her same age ;).. )She was just releasing all her thoughts and continued with her story.
She had an art of letting go of her thoughts and words in the way she wanted. And I felt I had a lot to study from her. So I didn’t tell her to stop even though there were works awaiting my attention.
Son : Mom, why are you never getting tired ?
Mom : How can I, when you are my first priority?
Son : Mom, why are you never getting tired ?
Mom : I don’t mind being tired when you are there all around me.
Child : Why are you scolding me, mom?
Mom : Because you are crossing the limits .
Child : Dear mom, when you scold me, I will start crying. Seeing me crying, you will feel very bad. So why do you want to make both of us worried by scolding me?
Mom : Pling !!