Teacher: What’s your hobby?
Child : Studying (proudly)
Teacher: Ehh..my little baby, Are you so hungry for knowledge..
Child : Hobby is a leisure time activity. So studying..;)
Mom : Babe, Why are you doing addition whenever the question was to subtract the numbers?
Child : Mom, I don’t like subtractions. I always want things to be added only; never should it be cut down. Let us make the world grow…
Mom : (Speechless, Admire you my Son!)
Are you a soft mom/dad..?
Are you soft son/daughter..?
Nowadays we often hear words like ‘ I didn’t have time’ or ‘I was running short of time’ or ‘sorry, I am a bit delayed’
Well, time management is not my todays’ concern.
But we are often forced to compromise certain things in life due to ‘this lack of time issue’. And the most easily compromised is ‘child-parent relationship’ in today’s stressed life.
Every parent can recall a time when their frustration level went through the roof, and their emotional reactions to their children were not adequate to the situation.
Parents won’t understand that their timelessness is changing their routine life or raising their temper even for small small things in the family. And kids are often their victims because they are the naughty boxes.
Kids are supposed to be naughty, that’s their birth right. So yelling may stop them for a moment from their naughtiness. But they too have an emotional heart and it needs to be realized how badly the little heart is affected..!!
The situation is under control how quickly the parent presses the pause button. There are two things to be taken care after pressing the button
After all, every parent wants their kids to be grown up as emotionally healthy persons.
And the situation is just reversed when the kids are grownups and by that time the parents would have become grandparents…now it’s the kids turn to show their timelessness and rudeness upon their parents.. And the cycle just repeats.. Even if people have time, sometimes they just pretend to be busy to give a five minutes call to his/her mom/dad.. They just pretend to be unaware of the emotions of their “home-alone parents”
So where is the exit..?
Are you a soft mom/dad..? or Are you soft son/daughter..?
There are 6 homes in a compound.. Definitely, not the congested ones as in todays residential villas. It may take around 1 to 2 kids’ minutes (they won’t walk, no.. they can only run ) to reach the other end if a kid starts from one end of the compound. And many such compounds before you reach a main junction. None of those compounds are segregated by todays kind of stone walls, instead there had some natural walls decorated with hibiscus, henna and all. (It was our hiding place while playing hide and seek….shhhhh. ) And a route in between. And we had a pond also there in our compound. There was a field on the other side of the pond. We go there after school hours, do fishing and do all kinds of naughtiness with mud and water….
The houses are still there, the pond is still there, the remains of the field is still there, but definitely not that 8 year old girl..
Time passes, we also have to move with that. Or else we should have to travel in the speed of light to put a pause for time..
Little Girl : Aunty, You look very beautiful
Mom : Oh! Sweeti, thank you so much. You are also very cute.
Son (standing nearby) : (Laughing silently)
Mom : Hey you fool, why were you laughing then..?
Son : Ah, she was telling the same thing to every mom she met today
Mom : Pling !
Never rescue your kids from mistakes. If you do, they will just continue the same and never learn to improve. So in effect, parents are spoiling their kids by allowing them to commit the mistakes repeatedly. Instead have a protective eye, ensure their safety, warn them on the consequences, still if they are continuing with their mistakes, let them do it. They will learn naturally from their consequences. And why not build up some harmless consequences, if they are not learning naturally..;)
And on the other side, if you are not enforcing those rules and disciplinary actions, kids will feel really bad, like you are not bothered on them.. So never hesitate to have disciplinary actions. So switch the mode very often.