Reluctant to ask..why?

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I don’t mind helping you in the best way I can, but I am reluctant to ask for your help though I know that there are people who even like it. (Without having any Secret agenda behind the helping hands )

Have you tried to figure out the reasons behind this reluctance..? Or are you of the other type, ‘no worries to be helped’?

How to ask for what you need is an art. Being in a people driven world, we can’t live in isolation. So earlier the better if one can learn that art. We need to know the reason behind this reluctance, and then only one can decide whether to overcome it or not

So what do you think? Is it due to a thought arising from any of these attitudes?

  • No favour please
  • It’s obligatory
  • Can’t be burden for you
  • I am perfectionist, don’t like the way you do
  • Afraid of the judgemental reaction from others
  • Worried upon exposing my inability
  • My ego
  • Afraid of being confused further after the help
  • Fear of being rejected

43 responses to “Reluctant to ask..why?”

  1. thewritewomanblog Avatar

    Is it not a combination of them all?

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    1. thewritewomanblog Avatar

      Some in negligible degrees and others some more.

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      1. Akhila Avatar

        Depending on the situation

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        1. thewritewomanblog Avatar

          Athey

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    2. Akhila Avatar

      Possible…still something missing..I was looking for that🤔

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      1. thewritewomanblog Avatar

        🤔🤔🤔🤔

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  2. girlandworld Avatar

    Wonderful

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you 😊

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  3. DARKLOVE9095 Avatar

    Worried upon exposing my inability and I might get confused just after hearing the solution….

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      So what to do….🤔

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      1. DARKLOVE9095 Avatar

        Need to figure out things by myself with a positive attitude….

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Yeah..good luck

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          1. DARKLOVE9095 Avatar

            Thank you 😊

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  4. mywords331 Avatar

    It is really an art and this reluctance is in most of ours behaviour.
    But yes earlier the better..
    We should learn this art.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks neha. So you too think that we should learn this art..hmm..

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  5. Meenakshi Sethi Avatar

    I can’t be a burden on others and also I feel shy but my daughter is helping me change this attitude.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      so sweet of her

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  6. kurianhere Avatar

    My ego

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      If that’s your identity, never put it aside..😊

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  7. Shweta Suresh Avatar

    I believe that some of those can be the reason why many people hesitate to ask for help or favour of any kind..

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yeah.. was trying to find out my reasons for that reluctance.. but none of that points explain it fully😉

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      1. Shweta Suresh Avatar

        Enitt full explanation provide cheyyunna reasons kandu pidicho? 😉 😀

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Oh..illenne😏

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          1. Shweta Suresh Avatar

            Ohhh oru single reason illathond aayirikkum. I believe the reason or reasons will differ from person to person. Athukond kore reason + oru etc might be the best answer. 😉 😀

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            1. Akhila Avatar

              Ha ha…aa etc Anu kittathathu

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              1. Shweta Suresh Avatar

                Athu kond nammuk etc ennu vilikaam. 😉 Oru survey nadathiyal answers kittumayirikkumo?

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                1. Akhila Avatar

                  Lol..failed attempt in wordpress😉

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  8. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar

    Fear of being rejected, and can’t be a burden for you!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Mm.. why should we make others in trouble in both cases..

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  9. Colors of my life Avatar

    In my case, I love to do things myself, unless and until I am fully exhausted. I love to research about a given task.

    Like these days, my wife want kitchen cabinets. I have no issue in buying, and we went as well.

    But I don’t know what stuck me, I said, I want to make by myself. So these days, learning myself how to do woodworking and doing things.

    So that’s another angle, it’s not ego or I can’t do it. I want to do it, that I don’t want your help.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Welll..that’s a powerful notion..I really appreciate that learning mentality

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  10. Jeni G.J Avatar

    It’s like I know I can do it myself. So I won’t use you for my need. If I can’t do it myself, I’ll definitely ask you a favour.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Hmm.. good then.. you are free of that reluctance..

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      1. Jeni G.J Avatar

        May be😊😊

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  11. boundlessblessingsblog Avatar

    Hmmm sometimes ego comes into play and then we would not want to do anything for anyone. Great words Akhila.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      It’s okay to help the needy..but sometimes some mind blocks in receiving a help

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      1. boundlessblessingsblog Avatar

        Yes absolutely true dear and mind is the real block.

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  12. mathias sager Avatar

    I’m reluctant to ask for help sometimes because if I genuinely return the favor, I’m afraid of causing a feeling of obligation to the other person to reciprocate again. However, thinking again, we should probably just ask more for help as indeed many people like helping very much! Great post, thanks

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks a lot Mathias. You reflect my voice in that feeling of obligation..

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  13. Reflection of Observer Avatar

    I can’t find one in nine . It may b depend on situation. 9 reason has a small role in my life.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yeah..it may depend on situation

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  14. Shreya Sharma Avatar

    My ego. 😐

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Hmm..

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