I don’t mind helping you in the best way I can, but I am reluctant to ask for your help though I know that there are people who even like it. (Without having any Secret agenda behind the helping hands )
Have you tried to figure out the reasons behind this reluctance..? Or are you of the other type, ‘no worries to be helped’?
How to ask for what you need is an art. Being in a people driven world, we can’t live in isolation. So earlier the better if one can learn that art. We need to know the reason behind this reluctance, and then only one can decide whether to overcome it or not
So what do you think? Is it due to a thought arising from any of these attitudes?
- No favour please
- It’s obligatory
- Can’t be burden for you
- I am perfectionist, don’t like the way you do
- Afraid of the judgemental reaction from others
- Worried upon exposing my inability
- My ego
- Afraid of being confused further after the help
- Fear of being rejected
April 26, 2017 at 12:10 am
Is it not a combination of them all?
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April 26, 2017 at 12:11 am
Some in negligible degrees and others some more.
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April 26, 2017 at 11:49 am
Depending on the situation
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April 26, 2017 at 10:13 pm
Athey
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April 26, 2017 at 11:49 am
Possible…still something missing..I was looking for that🤔
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April 26, 2017 at 10:13 pm
🤔🤔🤔🤔
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April 23, 2017 at 11:35 pm
Wonderful
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April 24, 2017 at 2:48 pm
Thank you 😊
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April 21, 2017 at 5:41 pm
Worried upon exposing my inability and I might get confused just after hearing the solution….
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April 24, 2017 at 2:45 pm
So what to do….🤔
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April 24, 2017 at 8:48 pm
Need to figure out things by myself with a positive attitude….
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April 24, 2017 at 10:02 pm
Yeah..good luck
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April 24, 2017 at 10:08 pm
Thank you 😊
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April 21, 2017 at 7:05 am
It is really an art and this reluctance is in most of ours behaviour.
But yes earlier the better..
We should learn this art.
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April 24, 2017 at 2:43 pm
Thanks neha. So you too think that we should learn this art..hmm..
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April 21, 2017 at 1:30 am
I can’t be a burden on others and also I feel shy but my daughter is helping me change this attitude.
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April 24, 2017 at 3:36 pm
so sweet of her
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April 20, 2017 at 11:21 pm
My ego
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April 24, 2017 at 2:42 pm
If that’s your identity, never put it aside..😊
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April 20, 2017 at 8:18 pm
I believe that some of those can be the reason why many people hesitate to ask for help or favour of any kind..
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April 24, 2017 at 2:42 pm
Yeah.. was trying to find out my reasons for that reluctance.. but none of that points explain it fully😉
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April 24, 2017 at 8:51 pm
Enitt full explanation provide cheyyunna reasons kandu pidicho? 😉 😀
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April 24, 2017 at 10:05 pm
Oh..illenne😏
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April 25, 2017 at 11:25 am
Ohhh oru single reason illathond aayirikkum. I believe the reason or reasons will differ from person to person. Athukond kore reason + oru etc might be the best answer. 😉 😀
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April 25, 2017 at 11:28 am
Ha ha…aa etc Anu kittathathu
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April 25, 2017 at 11:48 am
Athu kond nammuk etc ennu vilikaam. 😉 Oru survey nadathiyal answers kittumayirikkumo?
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April 26, 2017 at 11:32 am
Lol..failed attempt in wordpress😉
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April 20, 2017 at 6:11 pm
Fear of being rejected, and can’t be a burden for you!
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April 24, 2017 at 2:41 pm
Mm.. why should we make others in trouble in both cases..
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April 20, 2017 at 5:26 pm
In my case, I love to do things myself, unless and until I am fully exhausted. I love to research about a given task.
Like these days, my wife want kitchen cabinets. I have no issue in buying, and we went as well.
But I don’t know what stuck me, I said, I want to make by myself. So these days, learning myself how to do woodworking and doing things.
So that’s another angle, it’s not ego or I can’t do it. I want to do it, that I don’t want your help.
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April 24, 2017 at 2:38 pm
Welll..that’s a powerful notion..I really appreciate that learning mentality
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April 20, 2017 at 1:15 pm
It’s like I know I can do it myself. So I won’t use you for my need. If I can’t do it myself, I’ll definitely ask you a favour.
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April 24, 2017 at 2:36 pm
Hmm.. good then.. you are free of that reluctance..
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April 24, 2017 at 3:40 pm
May be😊😊
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April 20, 2017 at 11:52 am
Hmmm sometimes ego comes into play and then we would not want to do anything for anyone. Great words Akhila.
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April 20, 2017 at 12:24 pm
It’s okay to help the needy..but sometimes some mind blocks in receiving a help
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April 20, 2017 at 12:25 pm
Yes absolutely true dear and mind is the real block.
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April 20, 2017 at 10:10 am
I’m reluctant to ask for help sometimes because if I genuinely return the favor, I’m afraid of causing a feeling of obligation to the other person to reciprocate again. However, thinking again, we should probably just ask more for help as indeed many people like helping very much! Great post, thanks
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April 20, 2017 at 12:23 pm
Thanks a lot Mathias. You reflect my voice in that feeling of obligation..
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April 20, 2017 at 9:37 am
I can’t find one in nine . It may b depend on situation. 9 reason has a small role in my life.
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April 20, 2017 at 12:20 pm
Yeah..it may depend on situation
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April 20, 2017 at 9:31 am
My ego. 😐
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April 20, 2017 at 12:19 pm
Hmm..
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