Sometimes, all that she needs is a few words of acknowledgement, and not even a word of appreciation
Never try to understand her fully, You will fail 😉
Better to enjoy life with her and love her.
Courage is not a masculine virtue. And women are not at all weaker pots. Still a woman wishes to be in the protective embrace of her man.
It is the most precious moment for a woman to know that her man will do anything he can, to protect her from any danger. The courage of a woman is the man with her.
A few days back, Kishan told that he want to become a social blogger like me (he commented in response to two of my previous posts ).
Ha ha ..”like me’’ .. lol.. let him realize what he is telling 😉
In his definition a social blogger is one who raises social issues as well as writes about small issues in daily life which matters the most.
I liked this caption ‘social blogger’. In fact I got this title from him when I was trying to define what I am writing.
Bhagavat Gita : – “Whatever happened, happened for the good; whatever is happening, is happening for the good; whatever will happen, will also happen for the good only. “
These words always inspire the ‘real me’.
I used to write about happenings in my life, which could be already happened, or happening or going to happen. Then I used to speak for women. And most frequently about love. Is there anything else which I missed..?
Have you thought what kind of a blogger you are? So how will you define yourself..?
Mr X : Wow.. look at her..
Mr Y :Oooh..
Mr X : ……..
If she had a boyish figure, will she be a blossom in your eyes..?
If she doesn’t have that curves and curls, will you still ogle her..?
Is it because of the feminine shape, she is being stared?
Why don’t you take your eyes off her?
Or are you simply enjoying the beauty of the world in her face..?
I know that it is a common guy thing to appreciate a girl’s beauty. So there’s nothing to be done on that. And we girls also appreciate the beauty in you, guys.
Looking is not that bad, but when it becomes ogling/staring for a long time, the situation changes. It is inappropriate and should be stopped as and when she is uncomfortable.
And she can easily read from his body language when that looking turns out to be an ogling.
Beware; there are two more eyes which got burnt in those awkward looks. And the fire from her eyes is well enough to pierce into his veins making it bleeding.
I wish if he could just imagine himself in her position… And above all he is disrespecting not only her but also himself with that dirty looks.
And another fact is that she might have tuned into a mute mode with that constant ogling. Then she is in fact pitying him, reading him, reading him as an undignified figure.
Neighbour : Hello, happy to have you here.
He : Thank you so much.
Neighbour : What are you doing here?
He : I am a home maker and my wife is working in a nearby firm.
Is there something weird on this conservation?
By default you are thinking about your mom or wife as the home maker.. Right..?
Why do you think it to be a woman? I know that majority of the answers which I received in response to my yesterday’s post had taken the default assumption. i.e. a home maker is a woman.
Again, it all depends on the culture in one’s country.
Women are not kitchen lovers (Exceptions could be there who are passionate on cooking). Who had put that crown of home making upon her head without her permission?
Is there any biological explanation of the same.. ?
I don’t think so.. Hence probably it might have rooted on the societal forces.
Yes, of course education and employment had influenced a lot in the ‘male-bread winner, female- home maker’ family model. And there are a lot many female employers, employees around us. And interestingly majority of them are carrying the same old crown of home making too.
Today’s women are deeply engaged in office work. And at home, they start their second shift with cooking, cleaning, laundry, mending, food shopping etc etc. On a normal day nearly half of them will take up house hold work while 20-25 % of men only will do the same as per labour statistics.
The fact which had attracted me based on yesterday’s response (please check the post Just a Question..) was that ‘many of you suggested to have a break from home making Or you want a break from both cases, an entire break’.
Of course home making is not an easy task. There are many aspects to be taken care in our day to day life at home. It requires constant attention and patience. And it is not a one day task. It is like a never ending vicious circle as Shalini commented. House wives plan for a day, plan for a week, plan for a month, at times they need to have plans for a year also for the effective execution of their household work. So there is no doubt why you preferred to have a break from home making while responded to my yesterday’s question.
I am quite sure that some of my male blogging friends might get irritated with this post. Please excuse me. And I wish if you could understand the true essence behind this post. I just want you to think atleast a moment about your working wife, about your working mom and then decide how you can be a helping hand for her. Just ask her honest opinion. Or do you want her to juggle between work and home always?
And I am quite sure that there are a good number of kind men too who are there to share the load with women. But their percentage is sadly on the lower side.
And interestingly majority of these working home makers will never raise a complaint on home making because they might have already taken it as a part of their daily routine along with office work.
Now you will be asking me, ‘If they don’t have any complaints, why I am bothered..?’..
Yes.. in fact while I started to write this post, I was very much concerned about the working home makers. I was taking effort to help them, to help them come out of the situation.
But now I can see, my state of mind is getting changed…
A dilemma is created..
So back to your question on whether I am bothered about those working home makers.
Now I feel my concern have transformed into a state of pride. Yes, I am really proud of them..
Now let me say to them “Your potential is used in the best way while you are managing both your home and office. Don’t care whether someone is looking at you, whether someone is appreciating your effort. It is you only, who can manage these stuffs in the best way. Let your counterpart realize their ineligibility. You are always busy which means that your mind is really smart. Do appreciate it by yourself, if there is no one else to appreciate you. Understand that a woman is strong enough to handle the daily life stuff in the best way. You are naturally gifted with a talent of multitasking as said by Suprith. Your capabilities are always fine-tuned to adjust with any situations.”
And finally it is all about performing the role well whether we are breaking away from the traditional role or not…
Happy is a state of mind and we create our own happiness with our own attitudes.
Or is it like you have to set boundaries on what is expected if your ultimate intention is to be happy?
( yeah… the question is still valid and needs further exploration)
Love , trust and respect – let the relationship be rooted on these three factors and it will make yourself to be a proud home maker/bread winner irrespective of your gender.
Daughter :Mom..what a surprise! How long it had been since we met.
Mother : I took duty off and thought to give you a surprise.
Mother : Here it is..open this..your favourite item
Daughter : wow… Mom, how long had it been I tasted this! Love you mom..
Mother : Don’t you know how to prepare this..?
Daughter : Yes Mom, I know. But he don’t like this.
Mother : So what..why can’t you prepare it for yourself?
Daughter : Oh my mom, I am your daughter and I know you never prepared dishes which me and dad didn’t like. I have never seen you preparing something for you alone.
Mother : Yeah.. true..but his taste is not matching with yours too..
Daughter : Hmm..I make whatever he wants only even if it is not as per my taste. I think, I even forgot about my favourite items.. And now I love his tastes too, as much as I love him..
She was very worried and angry at him yesterday. But she was afraid to question him. She doubted if his ego got hurt on her questioning, it might force him to be away from her.
She wished if he asked about her worries. But nothing happened and his nature forced her to take a back foot.
But she just forgets everything when he touches her. Then she just prefers to be hugged. Even if she may be angry or worried, she just can’t tolerate himself being away from her.
She is not pretending to be happy when he hugs her. But naturally her worries got buried. And hence during those moments, she is afraid to question him on his actions which made her worried.
So her heart plays a game to keep herself alive. On one side it cries for his care & love and on the other side it just excuses/justifies him whenever it’s hurt.
But can her heart play this game always…?
She trusts him blindly and he is the center of her belief. Her heart won’t be alive at all to forgive him, if he has betrayed her love and trust.
So definitely her heart won’t play that game if her belief is lost. She will never give a second chance in such a case. Her trust is almost impossible to earn back. Once lost, it is really lost forever. And she will never regret on losing such a person who didn’t a respect the bonds of love and trust.
And of course trust is not gender specific. I was just trying to portrait the tenderness as well as stubbornness of her behaviour.
Do you mind to check Female Behaviour-1
she: aw, thanks.
he : you always have a got a good color sense
she: thanks yaar
he : ……….the chat continues.
Do you really think that the girl enjoys his talking?
She is in fact pity for him as he does not understand how easily he lost his self-esteem.
And definitely exceptions may be there. i.e. there may be girls who like flattering and flirting…
But a self-respecting girl would definitely feel it to be boring and so not genuine. She could never enjoy such blah blah words and definitely she would escape from the situation.