Words and Notion

Observe, Don't just see


Never rescue your kids from mistakes

Never rescue your kids from mistakes. If you do, they will just continue the same and never learn to improve. So in effect, parents are spoiling their kids by allowing them to commit the mistakes repeatedly. Instead have a protective eye, ensure their safety, warn them on the consequences, still if they are continuing with their mistakes,  let them do it. They will learn naturally from their consequences. And why not build up some harmless consequences, if they are not learning naturally..;)

And on the other side, if you are not enforcing those rules and disciplinary actions, kids will feel really bad, like you are not bothered on them.. So never hesitate to have disciplinary actions. So switch the mode very often.


Tell me why it is a mistake

I made a mistake. Next, what am I going to do?

First of all, I understood it as a mistake from my side. Then, I accept it and correct it. I also take some precautions so that it won’t recur.

Should I stop here..?

No… something more is there, which is in fact much much important and easily ignored fact.

Explain why it is found as a mistake.

This is very important, because someone else might have followed my deeds along with my mistakes. When I am accepting my mistake, he should understand why it became a mistake now. Otherwise I am paying injustice to him.

I will be learning from my mistakes, (of course if I wish only) but in addition I have to ensure that I haven’t mislead anyone. So I need to explain why it is mistake now. This “why” factor is very important.

When you are accepting and explaining the mistakes, it reveals the “BEST” in you.