Words and Notion

Words Whipping up Whimsical Waves of Notion


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Someone is there with me always

The child was sleeping so peacefully with her hands resting on a pokemon teddy while her grandma had that holy book in her hand.

Can you see some irony there? Both are having their comfort objects in their hands.

Is God the teddy for grown-ups, a source of comfort or a security object?

Both are offering a kind of protective embrace, a reconstruction of faith.  For the kid it’s the teddy while it’s a version of God for adults, making them escape from some unknown fear.

Kids escape from the fear of darkness with a teddy. He assures himself “someone is there with me always”, like God for grown-ups.

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I am on my Periods

“I am on my Periods, I am bleeding”, how it can be different from breathing or digesting. It’s just another very normal biological phenomenon.

But people are uncomfortable to talk about it; they feel embarrassed even if they talk about it…Another stereotypic impression.

“We are not shy anymore. We are not dealing with any nuclear bombs as Shreya said. We, the girls are likely to bleed for between 2,000 to 3,000-plus days in our lifetimes. So this bloody thing is no more a taboo.”

MysteriousSoul

Few days ago, I had gone to a nearby shop to buy sanitary pads and it was when I noticed that shopkeeper was looking for a newspaper to wrap up the packet in it to ensure the thing won’t be visible even before putting it in a poly bag. He took about a couple of minutes for the task and I was already getting restless to leave. So I just told him, ”Uncle bomb nhi hai, esehi dedo” (“It’s not a nuclear bomb, give it as it is”). And then his expression was indescribable as he saw me weirdly without saying anything and handed it to me directly putting it into poly bag. I left.

The above incident hasn’t happened just only at a particular place but I have noticed such happenings in various places. How pathetic! The thing could appear a jiffy matter to anyone but no doubt, these…

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Polygamy

Why do people insist on Ekapathi (single husband for a woman) while Ekapathni (single wife for a man) is not emphasised..? Yes, there could be exceptions; still polygyny is prevalent.

Polygyny was permitted in many places at one time. When the population of women was exceeding than that of men (due to war and all), polygyny was permitted, in order to save the female generation from prostitution and poverty.

But now the conditions have changed, we are not living in that dark era.  Still the rules haven’t altered. Polygayny is permitted in many countries even now.

They will preach for ‘Ekpathi vratha’ (single husband for a woman) while engaging themselves with many women. They are least bothered on the sentiments of their wives. Even those people who support polygyny will raise their voice against polyandry.

So ultimately they know the ethical aspect behind that. Or at least they are aware of the danger behind that. Or they can’t bear even the thought of sharing their woman.

It is not like, ‘if polygynyy is there, polyandry should also be there’. It is not a matter of seeking liberation for women. Both cases should be controlled, for ensuring a healthy social life.

Okay, I mentioned about the ethical aspect. But I know that, there is no point in speaking such ethics in front of the people supporting this polygamous animalistic behaviour. So all I can state is, you can do that as long as you are not hurting your partner. Or else, why do you want a partner/soul-mate in such a case…all are your partners, no.. ;). And you are just helping the nation to have many more citizens in a short span of time (9 women can give birth to 9 kids in 9 months’ time while one women can have only one kid in the same span ) ..  oh ! It’s such an unselfish profit.. …

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Translated version of  my yesterdays post ബഹുഭാര്യാത്വം


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Disposing used Sanitary Napkins

One of the ‘Ewww” things ..

But one of the distinct things in her life.

One of the things which is treated casually.

One of the things contaminating the health and nature.

I donno who invented Sanitary napkins. But definitely it created a great advancement in her life. It helps the women to be sanitized during her period time. It made her lives much easier. It has become a part of her life. But what about the used napkins? How long it could be hygienic..? Used napkins contain pathogens and microorganisms which is very very dangerous if not treated properly.

She uses and throws it in a dustbin or burns it or disposes it somewhere away from her home. She can’t be blamed as there are no other options with her. While we are living in a technologically advanced world, why are there no cost effective inventions to help her in the disposal of used napkins or tampons? After all who is bothered if she is affected with some Toxic shock syndrome with the usage of tampons?

The wrong disposal methods are having a huge impact on our health and environment. Still why is there least attention paid..? Every woman will think at least once before disposing it.  Definitely she is worried on the hands collecting the garbage if thrown in a dustbin.

What happens to these millions of toxic content in the napkins after disposal.. Why the authorities are least bothered on the plastic polymers released into the environment day by day? Definitely they are not fully biodegradable things.

Incineration is another solution. i.e burning under 800 degree C or even higher.  Still what about the harmful gases released via these incinerators or feminine hygiene disposal bin? And moreover do all these incinerators work under this expected high temperature?

I know, these are just open ended questions…..  Still hope for a solution.

What all we can do is just ensure that discarded products are self-contained, thoroughly wrapped in properly fitting biodegradable bags. Thus atleast safeguard the cleaning staff from pathogenic things by minimising the risk of contact with blood stained items.


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Join our souls to fight against the wall culture

Nations have made walls on boundaries for thousands of years. And the citizens are so obedient, no.. 😉 They are also building wall around their homes to protect them from the so called jealousy eyes of their neighbours…so brilliant…hmmm.

Even in the midst of this wall culture, it was a pleasant moment for me to watch a few people standing on either side of the wall and talking together, yesterday evening… I went back to my childhood days. At that time, there were around 6 to 10 homes in a compound.. definitely not the congested ones as in todays residential villas.  It may take around 4 to 6 minutes by walk to reach the other end if you start from one end of the compound. And many such compounds before you reach a main junction. None of those compounds were segregated by these stone walls, instead there had some small ways in between, a kind of natural walls decorated with hibiscus, henna and all..

Okay, coming back to my yesterday evening, I was so curious to know what they were talking, human instinct, no..;)… But couldn’t hear properly as I was at a few meters away from them. After sometime, I could feel that they were agreeing on something and deducing some plans. May be to visit a place together or to go for a marriage of someone in their colony.

Anyway it was nice to see that the walls were not built in their minds.

So 

Let us join our souls to fight against the wall culture and break the wall of social separation

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Are you a soft parent, Are you soft son/daughter?

Are you a soft mom/dad..?

or

Are you soft son/daughter..?

Nowadays we often hear words like ‘ I didn’t have time’ or ‘I was running short of time’ or ‘sorry, I am a bit delayed’

Well, time management is not my todays’ concern.

But we are often forced to compromise certain things in life due to ‘this lack of time issue’. And the most easily compromised is ‘child-parent relationship’ in today’s stressed life.

Every parent can recall a time when their frustration level went through the roof, and their emotional reactions to their children were not adequate to the situation.

Parents won’t understand that their timelessness is changing their routine life or raising their temper even for small small things in the family. And kids are often their victims because they are the naughty boxes.

Kids are supposed to be naughty, that’s their birth right. So yelling may stop them for a moment from their naughtiness. But they too have an emotional heart and it needs to be realized how badly the little heart is affected..!!

The situation is under control how quickly the parent presses the pause button. There are two things to be taken care after pressing the button

  • Limit the impulsive outbursts as far as possible
  • Take a genuine effort to restore the condition after an outburst.

After all, every parent wants their kids to be grown up as emotionally healthy persons.

And the situation is just reversed when the kids are grownups and by that time the parents would have become grandparents…now it’s the kids turn to show their timelessness and rudeness upon their parents.. And the cycle just repeats.. Even if people have time, sometimes they just pretend to be busy to give a five minutes call to his/her mom/dad.. They just pretend to be unaware of the emotions of their “home-alone parents”

So where is the exit..?

Ask oneself

Are you a soft mom/dad..? or Are you soft son/daughter..?


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Prejudice Barriers, ആരാ വിധിച്ചത്?

“It is like that”

“Do it as such”

Many a times we hear these kinda words. And we let ourselves to be ruled by those prejudiced notions.

We are not born to be stereotyped, but somehow got tuned in that way.

And very rarely a counter question is asked “why is it like that?”

Okay, leave it if you are trying to make prejudice wall sturdier. Be a stereotyped and use the ink of prejudiced notions to build your world, after all it’s a great time saver, no…;) you don’t have to over think.. just need to respond based on the preconceived notions. And live peacefully the rest of your life in that stereotyped world. (Ah!)

 

“അത്താഴത്തിനു അത്രയൊക്കെയേ വിധിച്ചിട്ടുള്ളു”, കലിനാരായണന്‍ നായര്‍ പറഞ്ഞു.
“ആരാ വിധിച്ചത്?”, അമ്മമ്മ ചോദിച്ചു.
അമ്മമ്മയുടെ ചോദ്യത്തിനു മറുപടി പറയാന്‍ അയാള്‍ മിനക്കെട്ടില്ല.

——  നീര്‍മാതളം പൂത്തകാലം

“ഒന്നിനും സ്ഥായിയായ വിധിയില്ലെന്നു തെളിയിക്കുന്ന ചോദ്യമാണതു”. മാധവിക്കുട്ടി എന്ന വലിയ എഴുത്തുകാരി അമ്മമ്മയുടെ അരുമയായതും ഈ സ്വഭാവം കൊണ്ടു തന്നെയാവും.