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A Recipient centric gift or a Giver centric gift?

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She was overwhelmed with joy when he offered her the tiny globe.

Because she knew how much he valued the little earth.

So what’s your best fit while choosing something for your loved one- A Recipient centric gift or a Giver centric gift?

A recipient centric gift would make the receiver happy always [But only if the giver’s guesses worked properly while selecting the best fit gift].

Now what if your loved one offered you the thing which is most valuable in his/her eyes? Wont it be much more beautiful when you feel that treasure he/she has shared with you [A giver centric gift]

26 responses to “A Recipient centric gift or a Giver centric gift?”

  1. thewritewomanblog Avatar
    thewritewomanblog

    A gift is a token of love, so does it matter if it is recipient-centric or giver-centric?
    It is a token that conveys the importance of your presence in their life.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Of course yes, valid point….normally we have that tendency to think, “what to give, what will please him or her, what should be their interest”… now this opposite notion stroke me “without thinking more about your interest if someone offers you his or her valuable thing”, … is t it beautiful?

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      1. thewritewomanblog Avatar
        thewritewomanblog

        It is very beautiful as it a piece they treasure

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  2. 2ndhalfolife Avatar
    2ndhalfolife

    I almost always now give something that was mine as a gift, something that I especially loved. To me this has multiple purposes: it cuts down on commercialism and waste and gas and also re-purposes something that was special to someone you love. I feel this has better meaning than just going to a store because the item is infused with your energy.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Very true…that was exactly the thought that stroke me when I too had this revelation…. what else could be the best gift other than offering your own valuable thing

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  3. Swapnil Pandey Avatar
    Swapnil Pandey

    Lovely post.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Thanks

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  4. Sha'Tara Avatar
    Sha’Tara

    A deep psychological question. For the giver, it all boils down to motivation: why the gift? Does it carry expectations, or none? The “danger” in gift-giving: we all like to be made to feel good, so if I give a gift to make someone else feel good, is my motive that they recipient will make me feel good in turn by thanking me, etc.? What’s the agenda behind the giving?

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Yes, shatara, but the more you worry about the hidden motive behind the same, the less you could enjoy the worth of the gift…

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      1. Sha'Tara Avatar
        Sha’Tara

        Well Akhila, it’s my nature to “worry” about such things. They say when life hands you lemons (gift) make lemonade. Life has handed me my share of “gifted” lemons, and often enough, no sugar came with them so the “lemonade” remained undrinkable. My learned philosophy is not to give gifts – ever – but to ever be “on call” for anyone – that’s anyone! – who needs help in some way I can provide that help. I prefer to help those who have no means to reciprocate. You could say that the ultimate gift, the safest gift, is offering compassion, the giving of one’s life (all at once or incrementally over many long years) to another – any other – without expectation(s). There, now I’ve explained it a bit more… 🙂

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        1. Akhila Avatar
          Akhila

          You explained it well shatara…and regarding the worry part, I was not exception previously…I always thought about the secret agenda behind the helping hands ( there is an old post in my blog in those lines). And in fact which made me reluctant to ask for help whatever may be the circumstances.. still I am the same, but bit improved that I have that guts to say a “no” if something falls in my discomfort zone..
          Then I agree with you totally that, safest gift is the compassion offered.

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  5. ravisidula Avatar
    ravisidula

    Never thought of this perceptive. hmmm well a gift is a gift and it would certainly bring a smile for sure. A giver centric gift may give initial momentary happiness but the recipient centric gift would certainly stay for prolonged period in their hearts.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Thanks.. but recently I strayed to think in the other way..I feel the receiver centric one to be more selfless and long lasting

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  6. Kurian Avatar
    Kurian

    True, sure

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Thanks

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  7. Varsh Avatar
    Varsh

    This is a tough one. Depends on their relationship and how much they know each other.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Tough indeed…but this wave of notion gave me a new impulse, a selfless impulse especially if it’s a receiver centric gift..like the giver is giving you what he values most, means he is ready to share his treasure with you…selfless indeed, no?

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  8. Feelings and Freedom Avatar
    Feelings and Freedom

    Well, I always ensure a receiver centric gift 🙂

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      👍

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  9. Mataindah Avatar
    Mataindah

    Yeaa ..personaly i prefer to give recipient cebtered gft to make them happy ( if i knw their choice) ..if i dont knw then i go for a random one..

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Actually we always think in that way, a recipient centric one.. but after this specific thought occurred to me, I feel I would be more happy if someone offered me a giver centric gift…

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      1. Mataindah Avatar
        Mataindah

        Yes we can ..but its not just happiness they need to use that particular treasure ..if thy dint prfr wot we chose then dfntly the gft will find a hidden place somewhere inside in the shelf

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        1. Akhila Avatar
          Akhila

          That’s the sad failure of receiver to understand the worth of what is shared

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          1. Mataindah Avatar
            Mataindah

            Yeaa true..!!

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  10. anaghamurali Avatar
    anaghamurali

    Yeah…..never thought of it before….

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Thanks anagha

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