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Is objective evaluation possible if you are very attached to the subject?

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Someone 1: She is my girl….see her blue eyes, speaking our love.

Someone 2: What’s there in that caty eyes..I don’t see anything..seems you are lost in her love..

Hmm.. there are certain facts which we need to accept as such. Say for example, pure water is colorless always…do you see it differently?

Said that, many a times we are driven by emotions or passions and we miss to evaluate things objectively..

Actually can we really do an objective evaluation when we are too much attached to the subject?..and moreover we all are biased in some way or other…And see different things in the same image as posted here

46 responses to “Is objective evaluation possible if you are very attached to the subject?”

  1. Daisy in the Willows Avatar
    Daisy in the Willows

    I think some subjects are hard to be objective about. I suppose it is about engaging our critical brain thought processes and try I g to keep an open mind

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      But is that really possible daisy..I mean practically is that possible?

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  2. Boldbrothers Avatar
    Boldbrothers

    I am very emotionally attached to the P vs NP computer problem because of its complexity and paradoxicalness. By being objective, I become increasingly closer to the “subject”. The same can also be said about humans. I can only help X out of his misery if he lets me examine him without the slightest embellishment of his character. By being objective I am solving a problem, him.

    I think the world would be a much better place if we treated problematic, confused humans (they would first have to tell us that they’re in need) like mathematical equations or rubik’s cubes. If we remain subjective, (attributing positive or negative claims, statements to his or her character without evidence) we will only add to his or her characters obscurity. That has never helped and will never help.

    Thank you for your little blog! You’ve inspired me to write one now about a similar subject! 🙂

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      I liked your analogy with Rubik’s cube..I accepts your points..but still I wonder how is that possible for you to do an objective evaluation while being attached

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  3. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
    Moushmi Radhanpara

    I think not!
    If someone is so attached then objectivity is surely lost.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Yup..that’s what…after all we are humans..

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  4. Shweta Suresh Avatar
    Shweta Suresh

    It’s nearly impossible to do an objective evaluation when you have the slightest attachment to the subject in question. However if anyone’s capable of that, then they are extraordinary humans indeed. Not everyone is capable of doing that.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Yeah… in fact sometimes I doubt if we become that extra ordinary human, we will lose the sweetness life..isn’t it

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  5. theonlysup Avatar
    theonlysup

    Sometimes mind do resist to see anything beyond the obvious that’s when the situation mentioned by you arises ..

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Yeah.. And could happen due to the conditioning of mind too

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  6. thewritewomanblog Avatar
    thewritewomanblog

    Your post reminds me of the ‘blue eyes’ that speak volumes in novels. But your interpretation, wow!
    Is not that human nature, to ignore the shortcomings of your loved ones and only see shortcomings in the ones that you don’t fall in the ‘tolerable’ category? It is how we choose to see it, alley Akhi?

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Blue eyes..🤔

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  7. Meenakshi Sethi Avatar
    Meenakshi Sethi

    Yes it happens with me. The people who are good by heart always seems beautiful to me. Though others don’t agree with me.
    Physically we Atleast me notice only those who are strangers to me otherwise all known one look beautiful or otherwise only based on their inner beauty.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      I agree with you meenakshi…I too feel it like all known ones are so nice…

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  8. Bikramjit Avatar
    Bikramjit

    Yes true.. this bias makes us say things which we probably don’t mean at all.

    Otherwise why do the same blue eyes or lovely hair etc etc turn awful if you fall out with that person…

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Ha ha..you are right bikram..we don’t feel it awful even after repeating 100 times

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  9. 2ndhalfolife Avatar
    2ndhalfolife

    Is it about needing perspective?

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Needing perspective..??

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  10. Cook with Smile.. Avatar
    Cook with Smile..

    True..we never see or ignore negative things of people or things we love too much

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Yeah..actually I am thinking can we do that while being emotionally so attached

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    2. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Between how is your shifting progressing…

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  11. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
    Moushmi Radhanpara

    I think we as humans can never be totally unbiased. A little bit of favouritism does hint our decisions.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Yeah. So true..maybe otherwise we won’t be the humans

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      1. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar
        Moushmi Radhanpara

        I know. That is the reality

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  12. turbulentjournals Avatar
    turbulentjournals

    Humans can’t really be humans without being biased. If we were not biased this world would be different

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Ah..liked that..in fact it was the sane thought in my mind..we won’t be humans if we cannot be biased

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  13. Feelings and Freedom Avatar
    Feelings and Freedom

    Actually, since we all are biased, the true meaning of objectivity also differs for each one of us. Something which is logical and objective interpretation for you might not be for me. Am I right, Akhila 🙂

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Ah..that’s the subjective way of approaching things… Still there are certain facts which will be same for you, me and anyone as long it is unapproved.. Like stars appear in night only as long as we have sun in day time

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  14. unsaid words Avatar
    unsaid words

    Things that are close to us are we are in love with ,we tend to ignore imperfections or have a tendency to see it as too perfect .

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Totally…maybe that’s how it is expected too

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  15. Kishan Thakar Avatar
    Kishan Thakar

    that’s the basic of novels. If they don’t use colors in eyes how will they distinguish key characters from sidechicks!!

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Hey..Kishan.. so that’s how you distinguish those side chicks..😂

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      1. Kishan Thakar Avatar
        Kishan Thakar

        I ashamed, you got me badly. hi

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        1. Akhila Avatar
          Akhila

          Lol

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          1. Kishan Thakar Avatar
            Kishan Thakar

            sorry, I was typing in sleep. I didn’t know what I had written.

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  16. mylittlepursuitsofhappyness Avatar
    mylittlepursuitsofhappyness

    We often judge a book by its cover rather than going through its contents..the same happens with us humans.. our perceptions matter more than the facts that are just as visible as we perceive.

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      True that..we are living in a world of perceptive images..in fact the same happened with me, I mean I never opened a particular book just because of the cover…😉..anyway covered it and started to read it recently as suggested by one of my friends

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  17. shifafawaz Avatar
    shifafawaz

    Yes, I agree…we see things better than they actually are and overlook and ignore the weaknesses and faults of those whom we love so much!
    Sometimes it makes us do a better objective evaluation, but sometimes I feel it forms a curtain and hides the reality and builds up false images in the mind..=/

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Yup shifa… sometimes we put that curtains knowingly but some other times, it happens accidentally

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      1. shifafawaz Avatar
        shifafawaz

        Haha..yes yes…that’s true as well!

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  18. boundlessblessingsblog Avatar
    boundlessblessingsblog

    Yes dear we are all biased, only love what we want to see otherwise all are not upto our mark and then we gossip and talk about that person or community. We need to rise above all these things which have no meaning if we want to live a life of love and bliss.

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  19. Shreya Sharma Avatar
    Shreya Sharma

    Favoritism. We tend to see things and people perfect when we love them, I guess. 🐰😮

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    1. Akhila Avatar
      Akhila

      Hmm.. it happens.. they could influence us a lot

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      1. Shreya Sharma Avatar
        Shreya Sharma

        Is it right to be lost in flow, that we tend to not evaluating things as they are?

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        1. shewrites170 Avatar
          shewrites170

          Depends on what the things are. It’s okay to miss out on a weird hairstyle or hair colour but not drug abuse or criminal record.

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        2. Akhila Avatar
          Akhila

          Hmm.. I know what you are pointing…sometimes we prefer to be just lost in that love lessons

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