He met her. Knew that it was someone else’s wife. Initially it was just a fascination, then love and later it turned out to be a thought to own her, a harmful obsession.
Is this not the same feeling ruling rapists..? Are they also having the similar obsession, may be on a different rate..?
(To make it clear, in this post, my intention is neither to question the faithfulness of spouses nor to violate the universal attraction law)
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July 16, 2017 at 2:00 pm
Can I just say that your writing has come so very far since I have “known” you.
You are a great talent, please keep writing ❤️
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July 16, 2017 at 2:20 pm
Thanks ajay. Have a good day
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July 11, 2017 at 11:37 am
I don’t think rapists have any sense of love in their intentions. When there is love automatically there is respect.
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July 13, 2017 at 10:07 am
Niths, think in the reverse order..the cruelty of rapists are invoked in those so called lovers when his love becomes an obsession..
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July 14, 2017 at 12:43 pm
Well… another way of looking at the situation, alley Akhi
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July 10, 2017 at 8:41 am
Then….
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July 10, 2017 at 2:42 pm
Leaving into your imaginations
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June 28, 2017 at 3:18 pm
Amazing
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July 3, 2017 at 11:37 am
Thanks
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June 28, 2017 at 2:18 pm
Hi
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June 28, 2017 at 2:16 pm
Do u remember malayalam movie mazhavillu,same scenario thr.its actually complicated we can’t say what is rite and wrong in this situation.to have love for someone is normal but the situations compllicated.
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June 28, 2017 at 2:17 pm
And I was about to say no one is anyone’s .we can’t just for the person and keep them ,they can make thr on choices.
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July 3, 2017 at 11:47 am
Agree.. at least you can adore them being at distance, giving their comfort space
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July 3, 2017 at 11:46 am
Yeah…seen that movie…we can’t say right or wrong ..but I dint like that film😇
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October 19, 2016 at 11:20 am
your blog is just awesome….I really touched….good one..
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October 19, 2016 at 12:33 pm
Thanks ishan.. will check your blog
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October 19, 2016 at 12:41 pm
ok
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September 21, 2016 at 7:50 pm
I don’t know what should I say , what to suggest .
I would say force should not be applied in any human transactions else bliss becomes curse .
Beautiful things turns ugly. Honey becomes poison . Freedom becomes prison. Light become darkness . Pleasure becomes pain.
I always see things in holistic views !
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September 23, 2016 at 2:12 pm
hmm..wish if all of us had that holistic vision..
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September 23, 2016 at 2:12 pm
I am sure about you , wishing others to have !
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September 19, 2016 at 7:31 pm
They are cursed beings, they make me regret sharing same gender…. They are yet to think above apes.
See the stats of rape in India via my blog…men rape, and not short skirts.
Such evil obsession.
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September 19, 2016 at 7:39 pm
thanks for being frank.. will read your post on the same..
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September 19, 2016 at 8:04 pm
U ever welcome
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September 17, 2016 at 9:14 am
The myth people have while getting attracted to someone is later they want to own them instead of loving or caring about them.
This is the root cause.
See, Akhila nobody wants that to happen. In my case too, (I don’t wanna drag myself) there are girls who talk for a while and later they become possessive. What does it mean they try to own. Well, my next reaction is harsh.
Hence, I really think it’s not everyone’s cup of tea to think in a way that you do. 😉
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September 17, 2016 at 4:13 pm
You are right.. They wear a mask of love and always controlled by the evil pull and push of possessiveness…
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September 17, 2016 at 2:23 am
“Uncontrollable Lust” that’s what I see… Love as far my experience goes is when you both want each other happy. It’s not a one sided affair…love is not what just makes you happy but you see to it that your significant other is happy too… So rape is out of question…Adultery can turn into love, because physical relation is also an expression of love, but obsession of anything is not good then how can it be for a person :)… 😊
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September 17, 2016 at 4:20 pm
Thanks shefali…definitely there is no love in rape, it is out of question..i was trying to say that when you are trying to own someone else without their will, even it is a mental rape….
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September 17, 2016 at 1:01 am
Dear Akhila, no rapist know the feeling of love. Nobody can harm others whom the love. Like the addiction to alcohol, a sort of excessive addition to sexual feelings is a type of madness that leads to rape. It’s a sort of timely madness. Affectionate care and control is needed to help people to free from this disastrous disease.
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September 17, 2016 at 4:26 pm
Thanks ambu….as u said it is out of question even to find out love in rape…now assume, you found someone attractive, initially it was just an infatuation, then love, then a desire to possess her even if she is married..an unquenchable thirst..i was comparing this feeling eith that of rapists…maybe a mental rape
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September 17, 2016 at 10:29 pm
Akhila, love is constructive where as infatuation is its anti thesis. Freud’s theories- Oedipus and Electra complexes- will help you to understand my comments.
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September 18, 2016 at 9:02 pm
thnanks Ambu.. will try to read your recommendations..
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September 16, 2016 at 4:54 pm
Being attracted towards is a thing and being obsessed with them or with the feeling to own them is certainly not love .Its all about how you channelise your attractions .
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September 16, 2016 at 10:04 pm
Absolutely right anami. Need to have certain control…
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September 16, 2016 at 2:56 pm
Hmm. Let’s drop it like a hot potato. There are plenty other good things to be talked about.
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September 16, 2016 at 3:00 pm
☺
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September 16, 2016 at 8:11 am
There are multiple viewpoints for this topic.
1. See not everyone is happy from an arranged marriage and all such people have the right to speak about it to their families and get over it rather than spending whole life repenting for the choice one made in the first place. In India. “log kya kahenge” is a priority to one’s own happiness. And that’s ridiculous. So my point is if a woman (as mentioned in your post) is not happy she must make a decision and move on. And it happens so many times that after getting into a relationship or marriage, people find their true love later and they just can’t help themselves then.
2. What rapists think is totally opposite. They carve for physical needs. It is due to the easy access made to adult pornography and misguided minds. Education is a good solution for this. There are tons of people living on streets and slums. We should educate them. And it’s not like high class people don’t rape. They do. For them, knocking them down is a option. I am of a opinion that rapists should be hanged to death. No trials, no grievance, nothing.
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September 16, 2016 at 12:21 pm
I agree to the second point. But on the first case, what i feel is, it is dangerous when someone try to own some other without their consent, physically or even mentally..that’s why i felt it also to be somewhat similar to the thought behind rapes..
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September 16, 2016 at 2:51 am
Is it not the idea of possession that is the real problem?
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September 16, 2016 at 12:32 pm
Absolutely right..when possessiveness drives us, things turn to be harmful
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September 15, 2016 at 9:47 pm
Romance is divine..but what if it is not at the right path
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September 16, 2016 at 11:29 am
True, that’s why i felt the other case also to be somewhat similar to that of rapists
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September 15, 2016 at 9:23 pm
I don’t know where to rate the emotions .. Love can happen anywhere anytime but it is also unfaithfulness and greed as love is not always having it is giving as well. Nice thought much appreciated
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September 15, 2016 at 9:35 pm
Thanks bhaat. When it becomes unfaithful, the life becomes meaningless…
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September 15, 2016 at 9:42 pm
I know but many a times I avoid to be judgemental who knows if there is any compromises instead of love two souls spend whole life without knowing what is love .
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September 15, 2016 at 10:28 pm
Compromises, adjustments..we hear all these wordss daily..aren’t they..but i feel if there is genuine understanding,then life is beautiful
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September 15, 2016 at 10:46 pm
I agree fully ..and Thank God for a blessed Life . Its just that I did not wanted to be judgemental for others .:) Thank you for sharing the thoughtful thought . 🙂
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September 16, 2016 at 1:11 pm
😊😊Havea great time dear
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September 16, 2016 at 3:21 pm
you too and keep reading and ping me so that could read you time to time .. 🙂 Happy Blogging 🙂
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September 15, 2016 at 9:43 pm
and I am jyotsna AKhila 🙂 or Nivedita .. jo man ho wohi bol lo
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September 16, 2016 at 1:17 pm
😉😉 both are nice names….
I was quite sure that you will back with your actual name on seeing my previous comment..shhhhhh…😛
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September 16, 2016 at 3:31 pm
hahaha.. So it was done purposely 🙂 nice try .. but actually I did it purposely too as I know you know my name through Mahi’s blog .. I followed you through her blog only.. Nice to know you :):) much love to you 🙂
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September 16, 2016 at 4:17 pm
Yaa..i remember the way we met..but there only i found this bhaat only, i think
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September 15, 2016 at 8:33 pm
True, in a way i agree.
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September 15, 2016 at 9:31 pm
What’s the other way to disagree 😜
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September 17, 2016 at 11:10 pm
Hehehe.. 😀 I was about to write something and then my mind wanders and thus this ..
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September 18, 2016 at 9:01 pm
😉 😉
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September 15, 2016 at 7:57 pm
No words to describe how I felt reading ur post… Kudos
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September 15, 2016 at 9:38 pm
Thank you so much.🌷🌷..
I can understand your feelings behind untold stories
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September 15, 2016 at 7:42 pm
Another nice question you raised Akhila. Rape and love are two different things, one leads to hell and the other makes you feel in heaven. But if one happens to be wanting an adulterous relationship, it will be sinful because there would be so many innocent people (spouse, kids etc) who would be hurt. Love is always noble and one should not commit adultery in love. It defiles this noble emotion, which thrives on giving!
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September 15, 2016 at 9:41 pm
True shiva… There is no love when the emotions drive one into a physical world alone
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September 15, 2016 at 6:46 pm
Loving someone is different and owning is way different. A thought provoking post.
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September 15, 2016 at 9:45 pm
Thanks puneet…in fact i was thinking, how can someone own some other, without their will
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September 16, 2016 at 8:03 am
Might be confused human with groceries 😂
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September 16, 2016 at 12:26 pm
😂😂😂…
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September 15, 2016 at 2:54 pm
Its ill mentality & nobody can own anyone and certainly its not love its damn bad sin..love is to see your loved ones,it never seeks thought of owning anything….
aah! you always came with strange topics of society!
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September 15, 2016 at 9:48 pm
Thanks prashant, for reading my mind…certainly it is not love and that’s why i call it also ‘mental rape’
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September 15, 2016 at 9:55 pm
Agreed with you and wonderful attempt on serious topic & thats what makes your blog unique☺👍
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September 16, 2016 at 1:15 pm
🌷🌷
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September 16, 2016 at 2:36 pm
Finally the lady has got flowers too…well!! That makes a day😛
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September 16, 2016 at 3:04 pm
😀😀😀
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September 15, 2016 at 1:32 pm
All emotions, unfortunately, become harmful when they get out of control.
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September 16, 2016 at 1:41 pm
Agree with you fully..and it matters when and where we draw a control line
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September 15, 2016 at 12:16 pm
Nicely worded Akhila though we all need to be aware of what is happening everywhere.
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September 16, 2016 at 1:44 pm
Hmm…not only awareness, but actions and reactions also should come at the right time
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September 16, 2016 at 4:34 pm
Yes so true.
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September 15, 2016 at 11:57 am
interesting one, ma’am akhila…forbidden love!!
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September 16, 2016 at 1:48 pm
Yes, forbidden love…people think that they can posses it…
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September 17, 2016 at 9:57 am
so true…but it is only an illusion true love can not be ‘possessed’…. but then, pursuers of ‘forbidden love’ do not care! and more often than not, ‘love’ is just a mask for the other emotions…
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September 17, 2016 at 10:23 am
Hmm…that’s why govindachamis are still alive
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September 17, 2016 at 10:24 am
ey..that is not love or lust. that is pure animal (animals may take offence ) behaviour
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September 17, 2016 at 10:25 am
Dont insult animals ..😉 they may be better
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September 17, 2016 at 10:27 am
i know… seriously, we MUST do something to put an end to it. and at times, i feel ashamed to be a part of this society. but most of us only talk…enthengilum cheyyanam
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September 17, 2016 at 10:28 am
😢😢
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September 17, 2016 at 10:29 am
hmm
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September 15, 2016 at 11:48 am
It’s the mentality..
Although as varsh says above it surely is not love.. and if it was love then I think both made a mistake there..
I had a long discussion with someone ..why would someone want to rape another human being.. It is such a sad world we live.
And law for sure is not helping ..
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September 15, 2016 at 11:35 am
It happens everywhere. You know the chemicals within us r causing it.
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September 15, 2016 at 11:40 am
Hmm..if so, may need to add or remove some elements from the body to make system in equilibrium.
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September 15, 2016 at 11:48 am
Yes .. that should be done A.S.A.P..
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September 15, 2016 at 10:23 am
Good morning Akhila!
How can it be same for rapists? I doubt if love features there. People can own cattle…not human beings.
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September 15, 2016 at 11:21 am
Good morning dear…Is this love…
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September 15, 2016 at 1:13 pm
What? Rape??
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September 16, 2016 at 1:42 pm
Nope, even the first case
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September 16, 2016 at 3:06 pm
Being attracted and having feelings of love (which is impossible by merely looking at anyone anyway) is alright, but one needs to set boundaries when the lady is married or even committed. Owning her is simply out of question in any case.
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September 16, 2016 at 10:08 pm
True…
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September 15, 2016 at 9:53 am
Sick minds that think they can own anybody.
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September 15, 2016 at 11:23 am
Ya…may be…they are ignoring the fact that no one can own anybody
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September 15, 2016 at 9:15 am
And to an extend, its all the mind games of a depressed mind, caused by the oppressed social norms.
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September 15, 2016 at 11:26 am
Is it society to be blamed for this…
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September 15, 2016 at 1:47 pm
If that society is included of people like you and me.
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September 16, 2016 at 1:40 pm
😇😇
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September 16, 2016 at 1:48 pm
😂
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September 15, 2016 at 9:12 am
Nobody can own anybody!
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September 15, 2016 at 11:27 am
The ultimate fact…
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