Will you gentleman be aroused on seeing a pretty lady in half dress?
When your masculine hormones responds positively,
Why is it so tough to resist the temptation or win the war against lust (in an unintended relationship) ?
Lust has always been more common than love and loyalty. More people are addicted to the thing that are bad for us because it doesn’t require much effort to sin. So another words lust is addictive. Love and loyalty is the greatest felling in the world but comes with great responsibility. Lust doesn’t come with responbility. It’s so much easier to lust than to love
Yeah..maybe your justification best fits to the addiction. Thanks a lot
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Yup..there are exceptions.. but very few…
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I don’t know if I can put my thoughts into words clearly. There is an underlying belief that Men can talk freely of their lust while women can’t. Men have an advantage over almost everything due to so many reasons. Women have been the subdued and the weaker sex in the past and the culture of men raping women or expressing their lust in other manners have become so prevalent that some men think it is alright. That men have lesser control over their senses than women (A friend who thought so, told me this). I think it is the whole attitude that has brought this about. If women were stronger and we had an advantage & control over the men, the same story would have been reversed.
So I think, the ability to control or not to control isn’t gender specific but depends upon a particular human being and his mind. Our society has dissected and bifurcated everything on the basis of gender that people are unable to see otherwise.
Ranjini… this is totally a different perspective… something to ponder…”if the women were physically and mentally strong enough the story would have been reversed”.. is that possible…
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Ah…👏👏….
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In my humble opinion there are so many different variables! One of the biggest is the poor mans ego. If he feels wanted and cared for and has his needs met at home, the risk of temptation is lessened. In practical terms, it is easy to turn down a few chicken nuggets if you just ate a steak at home!
Another is the mans sense of honor. I would not want my kids to see me as a less of a man. I have a daughter and would destroy a man who took her as his wife but hurt her. I need to set an example for my son.
Admittedly sometimes it is hard, but it is not worth the pain and anger it creates.
Unfortunately there are also some women out there who think of it as a game and look at men as if they are playing hard to get so their ego joins the battle as well!
Ah.. that’s the question, what you receive after the task…
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Can a man win a war against lust?
Yes.
Will you gentleman be aroused on seeing a pretty lady in half dress?
Yes.
When your masculine hormones responds positively, what if she is cooperative to your wishes?
Yes
Then, will you feed your hunger or move away holding your morality or loyalty or whatever.
Yes.
Why move away from morality, loyalty or whatever? Sex isn’t a sin! It isn’t a morally degrading experience. It does speak about loyalty, but don’t loyal people (to each other) have sex ? Whatever, yes please be specific!
Why is it so tough to resist the temptation or win the war against lust?
What? There is never a war against lust. Fir some, it is tough to resist sometimes, but that doesn’t mean that people go on a lust rampage with the first person they find.
But then again, it goes both ways!
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First of all thanks for answering to all my questions…really appreciate that
Lust is not at all a sin as long as it’s not harmful…harmful in the sense doing without the consent or breaking some promises .. both are acts of cheating…
well, it’s my view..
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Lol..😂😂..
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It’s in my opinion not hard at all. Tempting but not hard. Ones mind reacts to what one has taught it through behavior and environmental perception. In each case one should not that each persons reaction is different. The question can be asked if the degrading of women wasn’t so prevalent in today’s society would we be so tempted to act on these forced lusting situations.
Good to know that it’s not hard… whether lusting situations are forced or not, it’s still in the person’s hands..I believe so…
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Well, I don’t know much about the topic, but what I have seen and read in the books, the only thing that actually stop a man against this war is fear of post regret, the burden he may be subjected to after the situation (if he is already holding promises to other woman), at times not too, maintaining loyalty is a difficult task I see.
I agree. 😈
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मैडम जी इस दुनिया में चोरी करते पकडे जाना अपराध है चोरी करना नहीं।”lust” आदमी और महिलाओं दोनों में होती है।कुछ पुरुषो के guilt होने के कारण सभी आदमियों पे इलज़ाम लगाना गलत होगा।
And yes the mixture of lust and love is a pure form of orgasm…bt if there is only lust thn its a kind of “mental disability”…thing which are happening in the world is mental disabity not lust….lust flows in botb ways either men or women…
Totally..lust is the very human nature..no disagreements…but above to that will power, it becomes quite natural to have no lust at all with the unintended person… it’s above to feeling of morality or loyalty.. it won’t become a commitment.. it happens naturally when there is love in your life… maybe it’s my personal view…
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Well, yeah if there is love, there will surely be lust.
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Well ami, now I would ask, which women’s consent.. the pretty lady who made him lose his control or the lady who was waiting for him in his home ( if he has one )
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Woman in my* neighbourhood…….
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Ok.
The whole comment is supposed to be read as a whole. Not just the last two lines.
But just to be clear .. what I mean is that women can control the urge more then men..
And here is something to think about irrelevant to the post.. .. another reason why otherwise things take so long to change .. because people are quick to pick up anything said especially if it’s against a women both just against but even FOR is sometimes questioned… Why.. 🤔
Thanks
As for the second part, I have no clue, what to say…….
You don’t want to be questioned for opinions given in an open forum……
My grandad never wanted to be questioned but he was wise enough not to say anything in open forums…….
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Thanks for being so frank bikram..really appreciate that.. it’s a total human feeling and no harm in that as long as it’s not hurting someone else..someone need not be that charming woman who ignite the lust as she maybe even cooperative too, but it could be the one who trust the person
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Also, why generalise……..
As you said, if woman is cooperative of your wishes, doesn’t that indicate she too has needs, she wants to fulfill.
Men are different, some are full of lust some arent. Some chose to be loyal, sone don’t. Generalising men, as the lusty being is completely unwarranted and stupid.
No offense , promises are to be kept ..
with or without consent, never promises should be broken…
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words and notion 
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