I can’t do this; I am a fraud

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Am I good enough to proceed with this work? How can I deceive the people who believe in my talents? What if they found out my inefficiencies on a day? Do I really deserve all these appreciations or are they just doing some favour for me? I can’t do this; I am a fraud.

Don’t worry if you have ever thought like this. This is a part of all great achievers like Emma Watson.;)

It was interesting to know that 70 % of the world population have suffered from it at some point of time in their life. They attribute their accomplishments to luck rather than their capability. Most people with this imposter feeling are afraid of ‘being found out’.

May be this is one of the reasons which make people to wear a mask. (Read more on masks at “Unlocking the secrets behind a seductive smile “)

Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome) is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

And many a times this fraud syndrome as well as perfectionism goes hand in hand. And it makes people reluctant to ask for help from others.

Self-acceptance is the only way to overcome impostor syndrome. Give your best and recognize your strengths.

52 responses to “I can’t do this; I am a fraud”

  1. thewritewomanblog Avatar

    Well, I am dumbstruck, never knew of the impostor syndrome, now I will sit overnight and worry if I suffer from this one!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      🤣🤣🤣.. you don’t need to think too much…you must have felt it even if you don’t know the name.. I realized the name a few weeks back only

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      1. thewritewomanblog Avatar

        Athey now I can think about the same problem but at least with a name. Pinne oru styleinu parayammalo ‘ eniku imposter syndrom’ aanu ennu😉😬

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Yo yo.. adipoli Peru alle…that’s what I too thought when I learned this new term

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          1. thewritewomanblog Avatar

            Athey.. we are on the same page once again

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  2. Prajakta Avatar

    I first read about this in the book Lean In and researched a bit. The saddest thing is that women are morely likely to suffer from this – we just cannot accept our achievements at face value and contribute some of it (or all of it) to luck or other external factors.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yeah.. I too read that women suffer from this syndrome a lot..that could be another game to make her believe that she is not as capable as a man

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  3. Megha Agrawal Avatar

    We all suffer from this syndrome at some point. At time this syndrome also helps in giving the best.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      You are right Megha, it could help us too

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  4. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar

    Same feeling, sometimes just the same..

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yeah.. we will meet on a day, for sure

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  5. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder Avatar

    Though luck is always a factor ( even when we do sometimes want to ignore it) but one should always believe in oneself…

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yeah..just believe and accept oneself and never ignore our own worth

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      1. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder Avatar

        Always….

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  6. TylerLearnsToWrite Avatar

    TIL leanred about imposter syndrome and never before. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yeah..I too heard the name for the first time a few days back

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  7. Shweta Suresh Avatar

    Self-doubt. Athu enikk nallathu pole relate cheyyaan pattunnatha. The key is shut down all the negativity and keep motivating yourself. This syndrome and perfectionism! That’s so me. It’s like you’ve taken a glimpse into my head. I try to keep fighting, mostly. Idakk onnu pathariyalum, I keep going. Excellent post. Felt good to read this. 😊

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yo yo..day before yesterday oru torch light adichu nokkiyarnnu into your brain…

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      1. Shweta Suresh Avatar

        Lol. Athra irutt aayirunnu avide. 😀

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          🤣🤣🤣.. alla brightness karanam Kannu manjalichatha

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          1. Shweta Suresh Avatar

            lol 😀

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  8. noorainsobiya Avatar

    Wow.. that’s something to think on!! 🤔

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks Noorain . .

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  9. Reflection of Observer Avatar

    Received my mind….!! Touched my heart…!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Again mind and heart come in picture🤔

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      1. Reflection of Observer Avatar

        Hi hi

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  10. Colors of my life Avatar

    I have another issue, I sometimes feel over confidence and my boss say that I don’t know my actual capabilities and I can achieve much more.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Ah..it’s good , no…

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      1. Colors of my life Avatar

        I don’t know, I just kept going

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  11. Shreya Sharma Avatar

    God. I am really suffering through this😧

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Hehe…you are not alone, dear

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  12. Pradita Kapahi Avatar

    Great post! But I think that self acceptance is not just about accepting your achievements by also realizing that I’d ok to fail sometimes. we’re only human after all

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yes..accepting in all ways

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      1. Pradita Kapahi Avatar

        🙂 🙂 🙂

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  13. chaos-xd Avatar

    Sounds like a very familiar syndrome we all face and come across on the path to success!
    A good reminder post! 👌

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you.. glad that you could relate to that…

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      1. chaos-xd Avatar

        Pleasures all mine hun!

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  14. Varsh Avatar

    We would do ourselves a big service if we not only had humility but also the audacity to accept our own strengths. Seeing success as a luck factor is such an external thing. We never get more than we deserve.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks varsha. You made a point..accepting oneself should not be limited to any adverse situations..it must happen always..

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  15. boundlessblessingsblog Avatar

    Beautiful words and self-acceptance and being aware of what is happening with you and how you can do better instead of going thru these syndromes that pull you down is not going to work. Be in the know and a positive and healthy happy mind will take you forward.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yes.. you are absolutely right”.😌

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      1. boundlessblessingsblog Avatar

        Thanks dear.

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  16. Confused Thoughts Avatar

    Self-acceptance is the only way to overcome impostor syndrome. Give your best and recognize your strengths.
    Perfect line

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you. Hope we will realize our strengths and believe ourselves

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      1. Confused Thoughts Avatar

        Yes

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  17. Fny Avatar
    Fny

    This is VERY familiar. I do feel like a fraud, always. It is horrible!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Don’t worry.. this is a syndrome with high achievers. Be proud to be in that category😊

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      1. Fny Avatar
        Fny

        Aww that’s a nice way of thinking about it! Still is terribly hard though, but I’ll try to see it from that light!

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Yup…try to see it on a lighter side and at the same time accept oneself as a whole

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  18. Jeni G.J Avatar

    Do I suffer from this syndrome? You’re scaring me. Anyway I’ll take the last point I’ll recognize my strengths and give my best. Good morning Akhila.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Morning Jeni.. let us assure our own mind by repeatedly saying, “I can do this”

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      1. Jeni G.J Avatar

        😁😁

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