Secret agenda behind the helping hands

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“How helpful she is! “.

“He only paid the entire hospital bills. How great he is!”

You might have heard these kinds of conversations. Have you wondered thinking about the greatness of that helper?

But before judging their greatness, have a keen eye upon their helpful deeds.

In this self centered world, there is very little chance to be helped sincerely without a hidden motive in the helper’s mind. You may disagree with me wearing the shoe of a genuine helper. So obviously exceptions are there. But now let us think on those helping hands who have some secret agenda behind them.

Yes, it is there, whether you realize it or not. There is a secret agenda behind almost every helping hand.

And the most evil thing is when someone makes you believe that ‘you are helped by them while in fact he/she hasn’t played any role at all’.

What could be the motive of those helping hands.. .

  • With a little investment, they are looking for fame.
  • A give and take policy, even if the ‘take’ may be at a later point of time.
  • Hiding their own great benefits while portraying the service to others.

The first two are not that harmful. And the most trickster aspect is the last one. People will try to seek their own benefits under the impression of a helping hand. And they will be marketing themselves very tactically such that all around you will be deeply impressed with their help. They pretend as if they are servicing you, but there will be a hidden motive of self service.

Once we realize this, feel so much irritated with their help. And do you know how difficult it is to escape from their helping hand?

Personally I don’t like to be helped unless and otherwise no other options in front of me. There are two things which pull me back from being helped. First thing is the secret agenda of helping hand and secondly I don’t like to be dependent, cutting my wings.

122 responses to “Secret agenda behind the helping hands”

  1. Reluctant to ask..why? | Words and Notion Avatar

    […] to ask for your help though I know that there are people who even like it. (Without having any Secret agenda behind the helping hands […]

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  2. Mithai Mumblezz Avatar

    Yep. There’s always a motive. I always stay away from too helpful and sweet people. They literally change colors like chameleon.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you. Identifying this chameleon is not a big deal for me, but keeping myself away from them is really a big issue

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  3. Genuinelyellie Avatar
    Genuinelyellie

    This was a very interesting outlook! I look forward to reading more of your posts 🙂

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you. Have a good day

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  4. theonlysup Avatar

    its wrong to expect that help should be selfless act these days.if you are taking help ,return it with thanks in your own way.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yes, its wrong to expect as you said.. My point was how to escape from them..its really awkward for me..sometimes you know, they won’t let you go without being helped as they planned..ughhh…

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      1. theonlysup Avatar

        i donot like to take help like that ..i politely decline them..

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          some emotional bonds make us helpless..but I agree that we need to decline it in the best way possible

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          1. theonlysup Avatar

            i have faced these situations too.. but believe me sometimes some hard decisions are necessary ..

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            1. Akhila Avatar

              Yup..I have to

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  5. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder Avatar

    Harsh reality. Only a few, a very few people on earth are selfless and help others without any expectation or ulterior motives…

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yup.. Actually I don’t think it to be their fault, it’s the way they are programmed to live in this self centred world. What bothers me is how to escape from their fake helping hands

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      1. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder Avatar

        You’ve to be careful..watch out for them and refuse their help. I think, that’s the only possible way…

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  6. kalyansparks Avatar

    I also faced these kind of things,I am always afraid to ask help.Because I faced some bad situations in past.People do one rupee help and ask us hundred rupee help.if we don’t do,they will spread negativity on us.And sometimes they do very small help but for getting some name in society They add some bad things on us and tell to people.( this happened with my parents,but unfortunately he is my own family member,soo we can’t blame him)That’s why I am scared to take help even from my family ,because Sometimes that take advantage,and we can’t say no,though it’s illegal!!!!! Thanks for sharing

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  7. Moushmi Radhanpara Avatar

    You are absolutely correct.
    In this self centered world we can surely not rely on the helpers who may just seem to us as selfless.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks moushmi. Happy that we are in the same boat

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  8. Shreya Sharma Avatar

    Someone sounds cynical 😐
    But yes, in this self-centered world, there are very rare people who help others without looking for any benefit.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Mm.. A sad reality..

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  9. lifeaswehaveneverknownit Avatar

    Such beautiful thoughts penned down in one post. Amazing Akila ❤
    I love your way of writing !

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks a lot for your kind words.have a good day

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      1. lifeaswehaveneverknownit Avatar

        You too Akhila ♡

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  10. skd Avatar

    Trust with intelligent evaluation! Here we consider only our level of helping hand towards us. There you have the choice. However there are choice-less souls (majority). In such cases, we need to view this topic with wider perspective! Anyways, good trigger Akhila.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Ya..it’s all a matter of our vision.

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      1. skd Avatar

        😊👍

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  11. thewritewomanblog Avatar

    This post reminds me of a friend who sang praises for my blog one fine morning. She said so many wonderful things that I started wondering if she was mocking my work. However, it just turned out that she needed a favor and knowing my passion for writing, she chose to help me ‘boost’ my confidence with her mockery of a praise.
    However, there are wonderful people out there in this world who help without awarding him/her with a brownie point for the action. Most of these people have achieved greatness and almost always have shun the limelight and instead remained modest and opted to influence others to follow the actions.
    For me the first name would always be Dr. Devi Shetty whom I directly correlate to God himself.
    Saint Mother Teresa being another great soul. Even among us there are many who do their bit and vanish off into thin air without as much as expecting a ‘Thank You’ for their actions.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yes, there are people who don’t wait for any recognitions.. They do their part and disappear.. Even at the same time, i feel pity on those people who try to create an impression of a helper

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      1. thewritewomanblog Avatar

        Can totally relate!

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  12. Shaggy Avatar

    The people who don’t take generally, never give……
    Help is something we all need, day to day….. Doesn’t mean you are weak….
    Besides, the whole world is the give and take, what’s wrong with it??
    Asking for help and helping someone is the best way of cementing relationship…….
    Who helps without expectations?? Without motives, doesn’t mean they aren’t good people……
    If I did something for you I do want a return favour!! I dont get what’s wrong in it??

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Hmm..perspectives difference..

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      1. Shaggy Avatar

        Hope I didn’t offend you…….

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Oh..never..actually it’s good to read different perspectives

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  13. 2ndhalfolife Avatar

    It is a sad thing that you think that most givers have an ulterior motive. I would like to think the times I have offered to give something that this is not the case…that I am honestly just trying to be kind…

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      It’s so good then..I know there is little bit negativity in that post..and I am not blindly saying that all are alike. There are exceptions too..

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      1. 2ndhalfolife Avatar

        😊

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  14. kawsreflections Avatar

    Beautiful!! I love it. So much truth in what you write. Thanks for sharing it with us!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you so much

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      1. kawsreflections Avatar

        You are so welcome.

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  15. Jeni G.J Avatar

    I think people stopped to help each other. Every one is busy in their own lives. To help is a selfless act and if people are turning it into a selfish act, it’s not a good sign for humanity.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Obviously it’s not a Good sign.. We can’t expect any selfless acts..

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      1. Jeni G.J Avatar

        But help is a help. I’m happy to get any help and grateful for it. I don’t mind what’s the behind it and will feel sorry for them if it backfires.

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Good then.. But still the motives are least appreciable

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          1. Jeni G.J Avatar

            I know you’ll tell this and that’s why I commented like that..

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            1. Akhila Avatar

              😉

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              1. Jeni G.J Avatar

                Did you try fiction after that?

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                1. Akhila Avatar

                  No dear.. Its not in my blood;)

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                  1. Jeni G.J Avatar

                    Ha ha..you’ll never know..may be you can write that too..let’s see.

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                    1. Akhila Avatar

                      Thanks a ton..you are so nice

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                    2. Jeni G.J Avatar

                      I’m planning to start a challenge on my blog. Actually I just thought of it. You can try participating there.

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                    3. Jeni G.J Avatar

                      If I can write,you can definitely write.

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                    4. Akhila Avatar

                      😉

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  16. Sarah Avatar
    Sarah

    I agree, people are nowadays self-serving. I’d rather struggle to be independent and enjoy my fruits later than listen to someone saying were it not for him/her I would not have this or the other.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Exactly. You reflect my words. Why should we hear unnecessary fake words..

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      1. Sarah Avatar
        Sarah

        No reason at all.

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  17. boundlessblessingsblog Avatar

    Well written Akhila and for sure u will find such people along your way who r very selfish and squeeze u of everything in life so one has to be careful.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yes. Its damn difficult to escape from such people even when we deny their help. Their whole intention is to create an image of a helping hand. But it won’t be genuine

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      1. boundlessblessingsblog Avatar

        Hmmm absolutely true dear

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  18. crystalamayy Avatar
    crystalamayy

    Exactly,agree with you .

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you greesh

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  19. mathias sager Avatar

    Well described. Although it sounds a bit negative, I fully agree! We live in a transactional world, rarely somebody is really independent / self-sufficient, unfortunately! Examples are marriages for economic rather than romantic reasons, family bonds that break because of even small money issues, etc.. I like your determination to help yourself in a self-responsible way; strong! All the best!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks Mathias. Yes, its about a negative aspect of the self centred world…

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  20. Shweta Suresh Avatar

    Ithu pazhe post aano? This showed up in my reader now. Valare sathyam aanu. There are people who genuinely help others and then there are the fake ones. How do we know the genuine ones? It’s really hard. Better to ask help only when there’s no other alternative and that too from people you can truly trust. Alle? Allathe enghane manassilakkum whether their intentions are good or not??

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      This is an old post shweta. I reposted it. Its difficult yo understand the genuine helping hands. And you it’s more difficult to escape from those fake hands. They won’t leave you without creating an impression of a helper.

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      1. Shweta Suresh Avatar

        I know. It’s very difficult. Mind reading ariyamayirunnenkil kollaam ennu thoni pokum..

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Hmm..

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  21. Thoughts with Sulaimani Avatar
    Thoughts with Sulaimani

    keep distance dear. betrayal becomes order of the day, betrayal turns life into dust. nothing absolute nothing

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yup..a safe distance is always recommended

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  22. parijat shukla Avatar
    parijat shukla

    good one 😊

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Hey, how do you manage to catch this old post

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      1. parijat shukla Avatar
        parijat shukla

        Credit goes to WP for showing it on top of all your posts as if you posted it just now…One of many stunts of WP 😊 but i dont mind when it happens to be the post i didnt read before.

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  23. Useful help | Words and Notion Avatar

    […] is just a show off type. But there are cases when we oversee it. Even if we didn’t have any secret agenda behind the helping hands, we miss to shape it in a better form. Or rather we don’t ensure the quality of the help given. […]

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  24. K. Bellamy with a Purpose Avatar
    K. Bellamy with a Purpose

    There are people in this world who help and offer help without wanting or asking for anything in return, except a genuine smile, which equates to LOVE.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      yeah.. that genuine smile is there with a few species only.. thanks..

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  25. myheartbeats4ublog Avatar

    True, dependency stunts your growth….but secret agenda….hmmm, suspicious mind…well elucidated thoughts. Ma’am

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      happy with your words…:)

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      1. myheartbeats4ublog Avatar

        Happy with your thoughts…

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  26. pins & ashes Avatar

    Help without care of getting back.. But as you said, it is a selfish and moreover a self centred world.. We need to be careful and think about the intentions of people who cone forth to offer help! That said there are enough and more good helping hands 🙂

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      yes.. we need to be careful..thanks for commenting..

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  27. Dakshi Avatar

    A true spirit. 🙂

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      thank you

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  28. mukhamani Avatar

    I really don’t know if it is correct to think there is a secret agenda behind a helping hand. We too help people in whatever way we can. And I don’t think I have a secret agenda behind my actions. A very interesting post. I believe there are as many opinions as there are people. Regards

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      I am Glad to read your reply. And I liked your perspective about thinking of oneself in the situation.

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  29. Beparvah !! Avatar
    Beparvah !!

    Superb… It’s always a treat to read you posts:)

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks friend, I am blessed with your words. how are you doing?

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      1. Beparvah !! Avatar
        Beparvah !!

        Am started taking lectures in Calcutta university.. And preparing for the exam… And getting habituated with the pain !!
        You know what I mean…
        Btw I tried what you said, sitting on the floor help at times..

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Glad to hear From you. Happy to know that you are engaged with university. Take care friend

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          1. Beparvah !! Avatar
            Beparvah !!

            Thank you so much friend!
            This word means a lot to me 🙂
            Pls tc :)!

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      2. Beparvah !! Avatar
        Beparvah !!

        You are welcome:)

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  31. benrattle Avatar
    benrattle

    No such thing as altruism…Even when we think we’re being selfless we’re probably basking in the self satisfied glow of having done a good deed!
    Damn humanity. Urgh. Think I need a shower.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Ha. Nice thinking. Yes at times I too feel the selfishness behind my own selfless thoughts

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  32. Secret agenda behind the helping hands – The tunisian girl Avatar

    […] Source: Secret agenda behind the helping hands […]

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  33. davekingsbury Avatar

    I like to trust people until they give me cause not to – better than not trusting them until they prove they can be trusted.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Hmm..that’s a good thought. Have a good day.

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  34. DaisyWillows Avatar

    I know this story very well.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Oh..you also face these experiences. .how Will you tackle it?

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  35. Nitin Avatar
    Nitin

    A harsh reality of life. But true.

    PS – Please refollow me by clicking on my avatar. I got a new domain but it’s in limbo for now. Lost many of the posts too. THanks 🙂

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yes. I will follow.thanks ..

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  36. Amrita Avatar
    Amrita

    **continue.. This fills me with Gratitude.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks Amritha. .I think you are also undergoing the same situation.

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  37. Amrita Avatar
    Amrita

    Hmm.. I can relate to every word you wrote. I’ve learned to help when asked ( that too if it comes from within) and take help when you’ve given your all and still stuck.
    I don’t know how, but, there are so many moments when the Cosmos sent people (strangers) to get me out things I was stuck. This fills me with

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks amritha. .I understand. We can believe that there are still some good people around us send by God

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  38. Geetha B Avatar

    I see your point but there are truly helping hands. I’ve known many and am thankful for them. I think it is sad both to believe like a gullible fool in evil disguised as good and to see cunning and evil where there isn’t any or to be broken beyond recognition of true kindness.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you. I’m glad to know that there is still true kindness. Have a good day

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      1. Geetha B Avatar

        Thanks and same to you.

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  39. The Lunatic In My Head Avatar

    That’s a lot of experience talking! :O

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Yes.. Experiences taught me.. Didn’t you have any such dilemmas..?

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      1. The Lunatic In My Head Avatar

        I sure do. And now, I usually see through the motives of such ‘helping’ hands!

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Yes.. at times I keep smiling seeing these kinds of helping hands. How pity they are as they don’t know that we understood their game.. he he..

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  40. Sakthi Avatar

    Too deep!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks Sakthi.. Won’t you try to escape from such hands..?

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      1. Sakthi Avatar

        It’s hard to guess to be honest! Maybe it’s better to stick with limit if we find such a hands!

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          True….:)

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          1. Sakthi Avatar

            🙂

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  41. extinct0703 Avatar

    Curt but very appropriate.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you.. Yes at times we need to be curt to keep such fellows away from us

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      1. extinct0703 Avatar

        Definitely.

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  42. zerocreativity0 Avatar

    Great thoughts here!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks friend. How will you escape from such cunning hands..?

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      1. zerocreativity0 Avatar

        We must keep them at hand’s distance!

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          yes. perfect..:)
          And the most important fact is to reccognize them, their motive..

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          1. zerocreativity0 Avatar

            Only after recognizing..!

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