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Polygamy

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Why do people insist on Ekapathi (single husband for a woman) while Ekapathni (single wife for a man) is not emphasised..? Yes, there could be exceptions; still polygyny is prevalent.

Polygyny was permitted in many places at one time. When the population of women was exceeding than that of men (due to war and all), polygyny was permitted, in order to save the female generation from prostitution and poverty.

But now the conditions have changed, we are not living in that dark era.  Still the rules haven’t altered. Polygayny is permitted in many countries even now.

They will preach for ‘Ekpathi vratha’ (single husband for a woman) while engaging themselves with many women. They are least bothered on the sentiments of their wives. Even those people who support polygyny will raise their voice against polyandry.

So ultimately they know the ethical aspect behind that. Or at least they are aware of the danger behind that. Or they can’t bear even the thought of sharing their woman.

It is not like, ‘if polygynyy is there, polyandry should also be there’. It is not a matter of seeking liberation for women. Both cases should be controlled, for ensuring a healthy social life.

Okay, I mentioned about the ethical aspect. But I know that, there is no point in speaking such ethics in front of the people supporting this polygamous animalistic behaviour. So all I can state is, you can do that as long as you are not hurting your partner. Or else, why do you want a partner/soul-mate in such a case…all are your partners, no.. ;). And you are just helping the nation to have many more citizens in a short span of time (9 women can give birth to 9 kids in 9 months’ time while one women can have only one kid in the same span ) ..  oh ! It’s such an unselfish profit.. …

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Translated version of  my yesterdays post ബഹുഭാര്യാത്വം

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Author: Akhila

I am flying across the space between words and whipping up whimsical waves of notion to discern the quantum code of my soul.

101 thoughts on “Polygamy

  1. My two cents. If a group of people love each other and respect one another, are engaging in consensual polyamory – then their wish should be respected. If no one is getting hurt and they do well in that situation why restrict them from making it official? Whether it be multiple husbands, wives, or whatever. Of course, this is entirely grounded in my western perspective and I do not presume to understand the cultural motivations behind such arrangements in other places. Mind you, it being consensual, not forced, is the key component in regards to my being okay with it. Otherwise, I think it is no good.

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    • Thanks Laura..your two cents are well appreciated… 😀it’s not about how society or culture treat the people, but it should be based on their own comfort and priorities as long as no else is hurt with their decision..I truly understand and respect your words…

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      • Thank you, the fact that you brought up the discussion and various people are weighing in on the matter is great. Having an open dialogue helps with understanding other perspectives. I hope things get better for families dealing with these issues.

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  2. I could sense of strong patriarchy in polygamy !~

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  3. Polygamy or polyandry is fine but just not allowed once the institution of marriage is set.. Coz that’s the whole point when u take oaths of being with one another for rest of your lives, but then since divorces are so rampant these days I think the situation will surely change

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  4. Just read an article yesterday – Iraq toys with polygamy as a solution for war widows – this makes sense and is the only practical solution to the many women who are left with no husband, no roof above their head, no income and many children in an insecure nation. The heartbreaking story of ‘The Water Wives of Maharashtra’ is another story altogether.
    Otherwise, polygamy can only be defined as man’s greed to reign and own more than one woman.

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  5. No tradition should be accepted without question. Interesting piece.

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  7. I think these practices still exist in today’s time to actually shadow pervertedness. I am not questioning the beginning of these practices. may be in some places they were logical. But I don’t think the logic applies in today’s time

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  9. I touch on this slightly in my work. The main reason you are taught this is obviously patriarchy, but they have known a secret that they have hidden from the masses. That secret is that the bloodline runs through the female. The ancients knew this and a king or pharaoh could not rule unless he was wed to a women of the royal bloodline. This is why they let the male (king or pharaoh) marry and have several partners, but the queens, for the most part, had the one husband. The bloodline ran through her. The patriarchs enforced this on everyone.

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  10. This is the naked truth of the male dominated society. 🙁Laws and rules were framed and even today are being twisted to meet some special interests of just few people, not for all. That’s the epicenter of all the crime and unethical actions that has taken place and are still taking place. I am against both polygamy and polyandry. They are hazardous to the way of living. Dominance of one group over the other always reaches a break point. Hope this issue gets solved before it reaches beyond that point. Many to one and one to many both are pointless. One to one is the best and more effective.

    Very intriguing post. Well done. Last sentence is the reason for such population in the world.

    Have a great weekend Akhila..

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  11. Fair point. And a history lesson too 🙂

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  12. That is the result of dominance of man over women

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  13. There may possibly be a biological explanation for the prevalence of polygyny over polyandry as well. Specifically, creatures (including humans) instinctively protect and nurture their own offspring. A woman always knows whether a child is hers or not, the man almost always assumes a child is his if married to the woman. That’s always been my outlook, in the three times I’ve been married (please note I am a much better father than husband!).

    To project into a situation I’ve never been in, I can assume that if a man is married to multiple women, he would feel compelled to take care of all the children. If, on the other hand, he is one of several husbands, his stake in the matter is much less compelling. The woman would have various benefits from having multiple men around, but devoted child rearing is probably not one of them.

    So if you assume that one of the primary motives of a marriage is to provide an environment to raise children, monogamy would be the clear winner, polygyny the next (in cases of mismatches between numbers of men and women), and polyandry a distant third.

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  14. One man, one woman! That’s it.
    I think it’s difficult to tolerate more spouses anyway. 😁🙈

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  15. “Why do people insist on Ekapathi (single husband for a woman) while Ekapathni (single wife for a man) is not emphasised..?”

    I asked myself the same question here: https://amillionthoughtsandaheart.wordpress.com/2016/11/27/walk-a-mile-in-her-shoes/

    It’s all Misogyny! I’m a guy and I’ll admit that everything in society is designed to uplift men and fulfill their selfish desires. A man only needs one wife!

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  16. Some people /societies continue to live in their own time! Well it suits their agenda! Time to change…

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  17. Loved it! Women demand equality, not superiority!
    “To prevent them from prostitution and poverty”- There are two reasons why women choose to become prostitutes: poverty and men in need! After all these years, did polygamy limit poverty? Did they limit prostitution?

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  18. Akhila I stay in Nairobi, Kenya where polygamy is permitted. I still wonder why do people want so many wives. In this world lot of things men are allowed to do rather than women. It is wrong when they do it. As you have said the point of soul mate will never exists in the case of polygamy, it is like cheating all of them.

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  19. That math at the end was the icing on the cake !

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  20. hmmmm…interesting comments!!

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  21. It’s because most societies now are male dominated with male Gods. If we look back to the Goddess oriented societies, you would find this very different. Women were revered and took male lovers, they were honored and the wise woman of the villages. They held the key to birth, health, herbs and other secrets. When patriarchy came blundering in, many beautiful things were destroyed.

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  22. Polygamy or polyandry both are unethical and there should be a rule to stop this practices unless special cases like when people gets divorced or their partners are expired at an early stage of their married life..

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  23. This topic also drives towards open marriages for sexual satisfaction

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  24. One man to one woman!!
    That is what I believe in.
    Besides, more the people, more the complication!! :p

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  25. Happy Diwali!!!! 🎆🎇🎉🎂🎊✨

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  26. what i think is, there should not be any such boundary at all. If there is mutual consent, nothing should be taboo, and where there is a breach of trust, everything should be crime. And, i mean that for any gender couple.
    Great post, these questions need to be raised and discussed. 🙂

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  27. A thought provoking write up..good post !

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  28. Very well written and we don’t need many husbands or wives just one is enough. Nice post👌👌👌👌👌👌

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  29. One man, one wife , One woman, one husband QED!

    You are invited to my Blog-O-Ween taking place right now. Some ghouls are waiting 🙂

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  30. The question is how do we know the other does not exist.. I am sure people have researched aboit how men have more women.. but no one probably has done the other way round..

    If we open our eyes and look one can find the other side too may not be in thay many numbers I agree.. but exists
    . It does. ..

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  31. I guess one man.. One women too. Life is full of desires, not necessary of fulfilling all your wishes. Relatable to the topic, People are busy proving what women can do, why can’t they see men were made for what women can’t do and women were made for what men can’t do. Gender equality also stands in between. One should see with the eyes of each gender and their perspective.

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  32. misinterpreting the religious notions, and ego of certain men are the reasons for this cruel practice. should be stopped. Glad that the govt banned tripple talakh this year, hope that more reforms will be made to ensure equality. nice post

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  33. This is well said. We really don’t need polygamy. Every man for their one woman.

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  34. So this was all about that Malayalam post!
    Powerful point..
    😊

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  35. Society have own scale . Nature have different.

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  36. Misogyny what else .. patriarchal society and it’s rules

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  37. One man to one woman.. one woman to one man.. enough said

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