Why can’t we be open to all?

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Why can’t we be open to all?

Why do we keep a distance from many..?

(It is not about getting along with everyone or getting too close to everyone, definitely it won’t be possible. But I am thinking about our interaction with people on a superficial level.)

Why can’t we put in a little emotional investment with all?

Why can’t we ask some thought provoking questions instead of artificial ones?

Are we afraid of something being stolen from our mind? Or are we afraid of being revealed?

What is that mind-block which forces us to be less transparent and less attached..?

Or is it some ego like, let him/her be open first, then only I need to be open?

What happens if we are read as an open book? Are we afraid of some harm forthcoming being open? Or is it some security threats..?

When we create an open book mind set, won’t it open a new love world in front of us?

Or are we trying to have that wonders in people’s eyes as mentioned in Alice is still in wonderland, by revealing less?

83 responses to “Why can’t we be open to all?”

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  4. Simon Avatar

    Its fear from hurt I think. ☺

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Is it

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  5. Beparvah !! Avatar
    Beparvah !!

    Because it often prove to be not worthy….I presume.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Then what will happen on a day when it becomes fully worthy

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      1. Beparvah !! Avatar
        Beparvah !!

        Then perhaps we will open up but frankly it seems to be a distant dream because how so ever we try to make peace with this fact that “no one actually can hurt us until we want to be” it really doesn’t hasten because this comes when we take calculated move… and I believe if we really need to open up then we need to have trust and love that both these aspects comes naturally not otherwise !! 🙂

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  6. Masoom Jethwa Avatar

    We cannot open just like a cookie is opened with a bottle opener, we all have our own setup to close open.like a door which is there bcz of our own maintenance.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Why..why..that’s the question 😉

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  7. Durga Prasad Dash Avatar

    Pertinent questions. But sometimes (not always) ‘open-ness’, or truth brings its own sets of problems and it takes out a lot of charm out of living.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Appreciate your views..ya, at times a balance is required

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  8. Fab Writings Avatar

    I am panda who have the doors of his heart always open, but the problem is nobody knocks at them. The problem is the people being selfish and not interested in knowing about others. They have forgotten the lesson “dukh baatne se kam hota hai, assuming that you know Hindi, Pain decreases with sharing, assuming that you don’t know hindi.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Ding dong.,.open the door my little friend 😊

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      1. Fab Writings Avatar

        Oh, Akhila Di is here…
        Please come in, it’s an honour for me that you visited my heart!
        What would you like to have? Tea or coffee or water?

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Well..i prefer coffee with hide n seek biscuits

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          1. Fab Writings Avatar

            Oh why not?
            Our choices are very much similar, it seems to me.
            I will be back in a minute, you just have a seat. 🙂

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            1. Akhila Avatar

              😊😊

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              1. Fab Writings Avatar

                sorry for I kept you waiting.
                So how come you visited my heart?

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                1. Akhila Avatar

                  Because you have an open heart

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  10. Meenakshi Sethi Avatar

    Not everyone of us are at similar mental level. We can open ourselves only to someone who is equally interested in us. Sometimes block comes from other side. We need like minded or someone who won’t backstab us after knowing all our secrets…maybe that’s why!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Maybe that’s the issue..we donno what’s their in their mind

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      1. Meenakshi Sethi Avatar

        Yes, we never know that and how to proceed further without this. I affected myself many times by trusting people blindly. I’m kind of person who used to think everyone is like me but my bitter experiences changed it.

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          I can much relate to your mind, as i ‘was’ very much like that.but now training myself…so in between, still i was thinking, why should i limit…just doing a rewind through my notion

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          1. Meenakshi Sethi Avatar

            Still glad to read your post and blessed to have people like you in this world! ☺
            I too get temptation like that often, this happens bcoz our basic nature is that of love and it can’t be changed.

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            1. Akhila Avatar

              True..that’s why we could easily feel the emotional vibes transmitted..

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              1. Meenakshi Sethi Avatar

                Yesss! 💖

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  11. spudbudette Avatar
    spudbudette

    I find that when I reveal too much too soon – which I was in the habit of doing all the time – face to face it drives people away. It is very lonely.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      That’s totally a new thing for me…wondering how will it drive people away…

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  12. my valiant soul Avatar
    my valiant soul

    It will be so much peace inside our hearts if that happens.Perhaps,too many unclosed hearts force to have closed opinions.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Ya it will definitely be a peaceful world. But What do you mean by unclosed hearts forcing to have closed opinions

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      1. my valiant soul Avatar
        my valiant soul

        We still are afraid of what others might think or say indicating closed opinions.:)

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  13. Fairy Kumar Avatar

    A post filled with soo many ‘?’!!
    Yes, I think that this is true. We do this when we meet new People (though I think that I am able to mingle after a few nice conversations!😜) But what I feel that restricts us is that we think (I think!) That we (I) might hurt the sentiments of the other person.
    Otherwise, I keep on going😁

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      In a way, what you said sounds little more unconditional..as you are worried on other people’s sentiment and not yours..👍

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      1. Fairy Kumar Avatar

        Umm… My sentiments matters a lot but if the other person gets hurt by what I say or do then, nothing can be more sad than that!

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          True..i agree with you fully..i too over think under such scenarios…that’s why i asked myself in my prev post..”why so serious “

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          1. Fairy Kumar Avatar

            No not at all.
            Just went with the flow😀😉

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  14. senora Avatar

    I think even investing emotionally on everybody on a superficial level would be emotionally too draining. Also, I think its best to be on hi-bye terms with some people for our own protection.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Ya i can understand what you are referring to. Hmm, true in some sense..

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  15. kawsreflections Avatar

    I loved it. This is awesome. I really loved it. I was really moved. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thank you..i am also to open that world of love through the frankness door

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      1. kawsreflections Avatar

        You’re welcome.

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  16. mataindah Avatar

    the real version of you shouldnt be always exposed to the world.. becoz that puts you in back stabbing and betraying circumstances

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Betraying circumstances…(n what sense faree?

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      1. mataindah Avatar

        i mean they will know our fragile point and its easy for us to be in mess

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Ya..true

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          1. mataindah Avatar

            🙂

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    2. Akhila Avatar

      Hmm…points to remember

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  17. gserpent Avatar
    gserpent

    Sorry it’s their problem not yours.

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  18. gserpent Avatar
    gserpent

    It’s fear. Fear of how other people will think about us. We are a bunch of smiling depressives because we go along to get along. Being your authentic self takes courage and not many are authentic. The number one way you can tell if someone is not their authentic self is how the act in front of strangers. If someone can’t except you for who you are, it’s their not yours. 😊

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Ya…let us try to be in our own natural ways..anyway open-mindedness will definitely open world of love and attachments in front of you

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      1. gserpent Avatar
        gserpent

        Yes it will.

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  19. Sapna Kapoor Avatar

    I think, it happens with all of us.
    Basic human nature is that we don’t want others to judge us, we want people to understand us.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks sapna…does it all lie in that fear of being judgemental..i wonder…

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      1. Sapna Kapoor Avatar

        🙂
        I really liked ur point in post and then continuation of it in Supreet’s post.
        I think it is one important aspect.
        Just one example…. People when they get unwell they tell everyone from office/ home / friends / some even post on FB to broadcast to whole world and they go to physician. But if someone has mental stress and need to visit psychologist, they don’t inform people around them. Either they don’t visit them and if visit….hardly anyone knows about it.
        Main problem with most of us that we try to “look good”.

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Look good..ya it could be reason for not being open to all…just we need to maintain a fake image in front of others..
          Thanks sapna fir this explanation

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  20. Joker Shayar Avatar

    it depends on vibes we get from others mostly. Personally if I find the person i am interacting with is thinking the same way i do, then i will keep opening the pages of book. but if i feel , i am pushing them to shuffle through my pages, then i have to close the book… or they can take it as annoying, irritating or even desp sometime 😛 …

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      I agree with you bunny..somewhat similar to my feelings

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      1. Joker Shayar Avatar

        Glad to know that we share some similar thoughts on this😊😊

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  21. thewritewomanblog Avatar

    Hey, Akhi! How are you today?
    I think being open and free must be reserved for your very close and dear people in your life with whom you need not worry about being judged.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Nitha…it’s a good question, especially on this post😜 …
      dont you feel a state btwn too close and superficial relationships…as said, with those too close people we could reveal everything…but still there are some with whom we can’t have a superficial relationships..my question is why are we just limiting such relationships in a hai_bye mode…

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  22. Aneesh Avatar

    Ente Thought Provoking Question inte Reply Ithuvarey Than Thanilla!!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      hmm…manapoorvvamanu..;)

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      1. Aneesh Avatar

        ഹഹഹഹഹ!!
        താൻ എന്തു മറുപടി പറഞ്ഞാലും എനിക്ക് ഒരു പ്രശ്നവും ഇല്ല !!കാരണം ഓരോരുത്തരുടെയും കാഴ്ചപാടുകൾ ഒരിയ്ക്കലും ഒന്നാവണം എന്ന് ഒരു നിയമവും ഇല്ല. പിന്നേയ് I wont Judge based on your stand!! So No Problems!! 🙂

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          nope.. nothing like that.
          okay.. let me say my views “On a long run, his vision will be beneficial for the entire country. ” shhhhhhhh….no more questions..and finally let me make it clear that i am neither his promoter, nor his destroyer.

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          1. Aneesh Avatar

            Okay……No more questions!!

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            1. Akhila Avatar

              😉😉

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            2. Akhila Avatar

              Only thing is i don’t want to go for an argumental mode here in wp

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      you answered it.. checking soon

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  24. radhikasreflection Avatar

    We hold back mainly from the fear of being hurt or judged. Except with a close few, we always feel comfortable with our mask on.

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      isnt it a mind game.. can we be hurt really..?

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      1. radhikasreflection Avatar

        Unless we are emotionally well evolved and mature, others comments or opinions do hurt. Hence most people decide to play safe by holding back.

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          I don’t know radhika..maybe a few come under this category..definitely reasons will be varying from people to people

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  25. Jothish Joseph Avatar

    It’s true, if we are like an open book then the world will be a better place. Perhaps the reason why we hold back ourselves is because we humans are afraid of being judged, by default we don’t prefer our character to be questioned. No matter how lovable a person is, after a certain stage even blood relations acquire competitive nature. People want to prove themselves better than another. If companies were like open books, the public would notice the loop holes thus denying them business. So open mindedness and competition cannot coexist!

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      I liked it, open mindedness and competition cannot coexist. Again this is a competitive world,no..so do you think that we can never be open minded?

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      1. Jothish Joseph Avatar

        I wouldn’t say we cannot be opened minded. It’s definitely possible but perhaps that condition may not last forever. The best example to that is the story of “MAVELI TAMBURAN”. The thought of open-mindedness mentioned here is a perfect description of his kingdom. Isn’t it? You know the whole story!

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        1. Akhila Avatar

          Hmm…maveli was too open..😉

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          1. Jothish Joseph Avatar

            True👍

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  26. Varun Avatar

    It’s cause, more often than not, when we open our hearts to get closer, the people at the other end casually take a part of our soul and smash it into pieces. So, a part of us dies just cause we trusted and loved. And hence the locked heart and a fake mask to put up. hehe… nice questionable post yaar..

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    1. Akhila Avatar

      Thanks varun..i liked the eay you explained a cheated heart😉.. Ya, no one wish to be cheated

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