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Why can’t I be over confident?

I don’t understand when my confidence turns out to be overconfidence..

Is there a gap between the two, segregating them?

Have you identified that gap..?

A positive vibe is there in ‘confidence’ while it becomes negative in overconfidence. Why do people tell in this way?

Self-confidence comes from within. So why should one be bothered on what others do?

Above all, does it really matter, whether it is confidence or overconfidence..? Even if it is over confident, either we will work hard to achieve it or we will fail and learn from the mistakes..so what’s wrong in being either way?

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Author: Akhila

An emotionally colored and emotionally neutral woman flying across the space between words and whipping up whimsical waves of notion to discern the quantum code of her soul.

88 thoughts on “High self-esteem

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  2. Interesting point of view. It has me thinking.

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  3. Akhila, you question, and that is oh so much more important than answering. Thank you for everything you do.

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  4. What I believe is that being confident makes you believe in yourself, whereas being over confident makes you underestimate others.

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  5. There no difference in overconfident or confident. Depends solely on the perceivers perception. Maybe we should just do away with those words and call it self esteem. You know that intangible thing society tells you it’s good to have, yet with every waking moment, it strips us bare of all things related to self esteem… Hi my name is LEO and I live in a backwards ass world. 😁

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  6. Yes, I can relate to this question. I think there is a very thin gap between Confidence and over-confidence. When we believe we will succeed it is confidence and when we think our opponents will never win, it is over-confidence. It doesn’t make much difference when we work hard and try to do our best.

    Have a good time Akhila.

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  7. Just be natural to you don’t judge your self as be as confident or over confident .

    Don’t care how People judge you.

    If over confidence comes to natural . Let it come and be with you like friend. Or many times you love to be confident just be that.

    Don’t try hard to be what you are not, let be the self. You are unique, beautiful, awesome amazing and what not ….

    Have great time just flow like water, accept the self like earth , be with the self like air.

    Being self is ecstatic. Being the self is blissful.

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  8. I don’t feel confident in myself but I sometimes feel confident that I am doing the right thing. Does that make sense?

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  9. Overconfidence makes one complacent which in turn is not good.

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  10. Like your new re vamp on the Blog btw 🙂

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  11. I think confidence and self-belief are crucial to success. Overconfidence can go two ways. It can lead to bold ideas or it can turn into arrogance- where the person won’t hear what others have to say. I think self-confidence allows more space fro listening to others ideas. Just a thought.

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  12. One small gap I identified is when u say u r confident but u internally u have done zero or below par preparation..

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  13. plus your blog new makeover is too good, i like this white background and simplified version. Even your bio – always in love .. Aha.. Aha.. good good 😉

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  14. I learnt it hard way because once i didn’t get through a paper just because i was pretty over confident as my mom said to appear it and let it go. I was confident then, don’t know what went wrong that i had to hear all this, thus, i realized i was much impatient than ever that differentiates the two for me but yes, in general sense one should always learn from experience not from gyaan sending our ways.

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  15. Totally upon you/or the person concerned. If you want to be confident, over confident or defident, just be and ya shut out the society!

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  16. The difference is people generated .. If one is doing somethig with all confidence and succeeds it’s called confidence.. and if one fails usually people says oh he was over confident.

    Over confidence is also in connection with boasting some people have this attitude to boast about what they have achieved or achieving ..In that context also we say over confidence

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    • so true Bikram…it’s is all people generated versions..i heard like if you think only you can do it, then people call it as your overconfidence…difference versions of a word…

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  17. Today in a pure listening mode(as regards this post).. interesting set of questions, and comments…

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  18. Overconfidence blinds our approach to a certain extent. I’m the best and invincible…is a good thing to know but won’t necessarily be true for long. There’s always some confident person around who isn’t boasting and trying hard to get better.

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    • i think it’s a wrong word or a wrong usage..may be something deep rooted in our mindsets that a confident person wont do boasting while the overconfident person mat do….

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      • I think the ‘over’ word itself implies something unnecessary. A confident person knows his limitations but overconfident one would probably be too proud to accept it. Boasting is a foolish thing to do in any case…Sachin Tendulkar never boasted. This bat did that for him. To boast is to undermine your own stature.

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  19. You know if once you are overconfident you will stop to perceive your competition,you will do just your best and boast about it wheras you need the future strategy too for succeeding much in life.Confidence provides us determination and hope whereas overconfidence lets us demoralize others to an extent.

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    • overconfidence lets us demoralize others to an extent…do you think this can really happen..I mean, can you ever think, ‘it is only you who can do this in the best way’…do you think that this to be the definition of overconfidence..

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      • I am not defining the word over confidence dear one,but tell me if you get overconfident won’t you think you can always achieve your targets easily?Won’t you feel everything is easy for you and maybe hard for others?Just an opinion!

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        • infact I am trying to understand the hairline gap between conf. and over conf. and frankly speaking i could not find a situation where my confidence or the so called over confidence( i donno whichever) mislead me.

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          • It’s a good thing if it does not misleads you.Anything which does not harms you or anyone else is in a nutshell good indeed!

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            • and my point how can people tell like she/he was confident that she/he win it or he/she was overconfident that he/she failed it.. is it all decided by the people around us..?

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              • Nope,saying that someone failed because of being overconfident is not right as many other factors can be responsible if you fail.All I intend to say is confidence is something that guides your soul and once you get over confidence,you don’t even at times realise what can be the pros and the cons in a long run.In your case as you said you never got mislead due to overconfidence,so that’s a pretty good thing I guess!

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            • but confidence and over confidence is intimidating to the other if they have their own cooked up problems!! #pov
              Plus I think confidence is what we as a person feel overconfidence is what the other feels about a confident us. So it is a gap between perception like you and them. But, confidence should not lead to an arrogant know it all state of mind where no more learning happens. if then, the fall down the mountain begins!

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              • It’s really simple.If you are simply confident your deeds would show that,like I read someone giving an example of Sachin Tendulkar..so how do we decide he is confident or over confident?But as far as I see him,I am sure through his interviews I could conclude that he is a confident personality because had he been over confident,he must have seen something nobody wished for.There is a thin line between the two..you can tell that by looking any great personality!Over confidence is really amazing..only in short run.

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                • Agreed, we can know by looking at a person about their levels of their confidence.

                  Disagree with the Sachin example, because of what he did with his waiting for his 100 100s and what he has been doing after his retirement. I would use Kumble as an example or say, Dravid! 🙂

                  But I get your point, and taken well 🙂

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                  • Ahh,take any example dear!You would surely know through their deeds.And Sachin making his decisions..how can that be related to confidence level?That is entirely the lessons of life,sometimes we make good choice and sometimes bad ones!Glad you could relate a bit.:)

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                    • Hahaha! that’s why I said, point taken and taken well.. Sachin was a pleasant deviation since you brought it up 🙂

                      I think I wrote as a reply elsewhere here it self, like you are saying..

                      Confidence is like an iceberg.. because to attain a level of confidence is a journey in itself.. searching for the soul, the guts to move on, not to fall back .. all that packaged into one.

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                    • Well yeah that’s another chapter..how to be a confident person!For attaining that a hell of things have to be experienced.

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  20. The gap is the word ‘over’ with an” I” that brings you down …everybody experiences it …but the most imp thing is not let it happen repeatedly

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  21. in our minds we are always small, others are better.. we are brought up telling ourselves that and that mentality is hard to get rid of. Mostly we are told we are no better and that someone out there is always better then us. okay agreed, someone must be better then us. But why compare, you are you and I am me! end of line. but still comparing never stops and sometimes its hard to find someone who would encourage us or uplift us… Better be that person who uplifts and encourages, maybe some times cautious but never discouraging.

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    • there is a version for overconfidence, i.e people define it as “I can only do this, no one else” . Why do we need to bother about whether others.. we need to offer our best.. that’s it. isn’t it..? and as you said, there is no point in such comparison..

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