She heard a loud voice and found him lying on the floor.
She was so panic to see this and she asked
She : Darling, Are you okay..? what was that sound? why are you lying on the floor?
He : ha ha.. , i am okay.. I was just lying here. I didn’t fell down. Why are you so afraid..
She : Hearing the voice, I thought something went wrong with you. If you are hurt, how can I be happy? I also will be hurt if you are hurt ..take care my dear
She told that she will be hurt if he is hurt. She will be unhappy if he is crying. That’s why she was afraid.. So is it the selfishness acting here to please one’s own mind…?
Was she trying to please her mind alone? She believed that she loved him or vice-versa. But were they trying to please themselves..? Loving him/her to make their own mind happy.
There is a pain when someone is hurt, especially our loved ones. That is quite natural.
But is it such a pain that makes you think on how hurt they (someone or your loved ones) are actually. And that makes you panic realizing their pain.
Or are all these the effect of so called “Mirror Neurons” ?
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June 2, 2016 at 12:34 pm
We feel hurt if a loved one is hurt! But we may also wince when we hear about an unpleasant event! Guess, it lingers.. Didn’t really get the question akhila.! Sorry 😦
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June 2, 2016 at 3:53 pm
well.. thanks pins and ashes.
now, just ask yourself why did you get hurt when your loved ones are hurt..? was it not a kind of insecurity feeling, a loneliness , or something else which is of selfish in nature..like we thought the after effects of the painful incident …this is from one perspective.
And secondly it could be like, we are hurt because we were really imagining the pain the other one was suffering which made us hurt too.
So in which category will you fall..?
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June 2, 2016 at 4:02 pm
Akhila, Category Two makes more sense to me that one since you have given me a choice.. Leaving hurt aside, if I take the case of say, Joy… I’m happy for someone when they are happy, and feel hurt when they are hurt!
Not sure whether feelings of insecurity, loneliness and selfishness play up when somebody is in pain! (at least in my case)
made me think!
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June 2, 2016 at 4:04 pm
:)… it is good..and i think it is a play of mirror neurons, which makes me cry even while watching someone crying over tv.
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June 2, 2016 at 4:06 pm
In all this, njaan mirror neurons sradhichilla! hehehee
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June 2, 2016 at 4:07 pm
.:)…in between may I know your name..?
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June 2, 2016 at 4:14 pm
Ash for short. 🙂 a very mal name..
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June 2, 2016 at 4:14 pm
Aishwarya…
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June 2, 2016 at 4:15 pm
This way you’ll keep guessing!
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June 2, 2016 at 4:15 pm
hmm..?
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June 1, 2016 at 12:03 am
We all are selfish. That’s why we cry whenever our dear ones get hurt…but we won’t feel the same way if others get hurt bcos we all r selfish
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June 1, 2016 at 9:28 am
yes, true…thank you..
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May 30, 2016 at 11:49 am
I care for my loved ones so I feel the pain if they get hurt, if this is being selfish then let it be, I am the most selfish person of the world.
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May 30, 2016 at 12:04 pm
well..
this post is not at all meant for people like you..:)
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May 30, 2016 at 12:17 pm
Hahaha so selfish people thrown out of the league 😉 Hehehe
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May 30, 2016 at 12:39 pm
ha ha ha….yes 😉
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May 29, 2016 at 11:03 pm
We love are loved ones so much that any pain to them hurts us too. I believe its our love that make us panic realizing they are in pain.
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May 30, 2016 at 9:03 am
if it is like that, then okay..:)
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May 29, 2016 at 4:50 pm
If intentional, Then why the sound? TIL about mirror neuron. Thanks 🙂
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May 29, 2016 at 6:48 pm
thanks..
i donno whether mirror neuron is there in human body. I think scientists are still working on the same. It is there in apes that’s why they are the best mimics.
But I wish to believe in mirror neuron as I can not find any other reaon for tears in my eyes while watching a painful scene over TV.
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May 29, 2016 at 8:06 pm
Yes. Read about it. We also mimic stuff like for example if a person in front of line turns back. I am sure 65 percent of ppl behind will too. 🙂 Regarding the painful scenes, May be the credit goes to director and the crew :’)
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May 29, 2016 at 9:50 pm
thank you..:)
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May 29, 2016 at 3:56 pm
It’s really painful to see our dear one in pain! We pray to cure them and also make deals with God (sometimes)that he can make us unwell in place of our loved one.
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May 29, 2016 at 4:01 pm
true it is..have you thought why did we pray like that..?
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May 29, 2016 at 4:10 pm
I guess at that particular moment we find someone who is more imp. For us than what we are for ourselves.
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May 29, 2016 at 3:36 pm
The best way to portrait this theme…great imagination.lot to think on this topic.each and everyone are selfish in one way or another.,but I think its jst a human nature and it is the building block of love and relationships..let it b there 😊
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May 29, 2016 at 3:38 pm
hmm.. in a sense it is also correct..it is the human nature, the so called mirror neurons
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May 29, 2016 at 3:41 pm
Hmm.. mirror neurons👌
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May 29, 2016 at 3:16 pm
I guess, the true meaning of love has been misjudged many a times… to love is to give, to love is to make the one happy even it makes you sad.. enlighten me, if you think otherwise
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May 29, 2016 at 3:19 pm
you are right.. true love is self less., I always go with that.. but many a times you can hear people crying and asking ‘why did you leave me alone’ at their loved ones death..they are afraid to be alone.. isn’t it.. is there true love..?
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May 29, 2016 at 3:22 pm
that is true love, but there is nothing wrong in grieving.. In fact, its healthy… it allows you to move on.. after shedding tears, you feel fresh.. You love someone truly, they go, you tend to feel alone, you cry and then you start a fresh… let me know what you think
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May 29, 2016 at 3:26 pm
well.. grieving is good for health…but my point is lack of selfless behind the grieve..I don’t think that it is totally lacking.. but in many cases people lack it..
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May 29, 2016 at 3:43 pm
then it may not be true love…
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May 29, 2016 at 3:11 pm
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May 29, 2016 at 2:48 pm
Interesting thought, A….love is often selfish…but then, perhaps that is also it’s uniqueness….
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May 29, 2016 at 6:51 pm
but i believe in self less love..
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May 29, 2016 at 2:46 pm
A great way to get me in ponder mode. We humans are selfish. This may sound awful but say a loved one is ill- we don’t want to let go or for that person to die because we will never see them again. if that person dies in my culture a huge wake is held for people- usually involving drinking alcohol. Then there is he whole process of grieving. To stop grieving one has to let go. Grieving as horrible as it is – is about the person grieving. So it has every thing to do with that person. Luckily humans can develop empathy and this is a less way for being selfish and actually putting yourself in other’s shoes without pity or sympathy. I think empathy is a good thing.
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May 29, 2016 at 2:51 pm
thanks Daisy..yes.. be emphatic ..it is better
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